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What should I do if my husband has an affair

Sihaiwang: in real life, many families will have extramarital affairs. More likely to be male. So the problem of husband's infidelity is a headache for the women. How to deal with her husband's cheating? Many women know that their husband will lose his mind, make a lot of noise and accuse him of changing his mind in the first time. In fact, this may lead to more difficult to recover. If you are facing such a problem, let's teach you how to deal with it correctly.

Control the economic power of the family

Once the husband has cheated, the woman must not be too impulsive showdown, the first thing to do is to control the economic power of the house. There are two advantages. First, as long as a man has no money to go out to raise a lover, the number of infidelities will be reduced. Second, suggest that you already know his mistakes and let him think about the possible consequences. Of course, this is not a way to avoid future troubles, but at least it can remind a man not to spend money.

Take the initiative to maintain the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law

The relationship between mother and daughter-in-law is an important factor affecting the stability of marriage, so it can make the marriage happier and control men's hearts more if you settle down with mother-in-law. Before the outbreak of your emotional crisis, you must take the initiative to maintain the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, so that at least you will not fight alone, and men will be restrained from cheating because of the harmonious family relationship.

Active attack

A lot of women run into their husband's cheating and even think that it's not true that a man is just playing for a while. It's not a smart woman's way. Do you want to wait for him to return? Instead of waiting for bullying, it's better to take the initiative and find some practical solutions, such as asking the third party out to talk about it and understanding the reasons for her husband's infidelity. In a word, we should think about how to solve the problem actively instead of waiting passively.

Learn to act like a spoiled child

'a hero can't pass the beauty pass'. Yes, a man can't resist the temptation of a woman's coquetry. Looking at the lost soul of a man in junior high school, he must be able to play coquetry and be soft, which is the most effective way to stimulate men's desire for protection and possession. It's true that a coquettish woman has the best life. Women need to be coquettish properly to satisfy the macho plot of men. But don't treat coquettish as food. It's not effective to be coquettish every day. So, if you still can only ask for help, it's better to learn how to be a charming woman.

Learn to cool

If the previous 4 moves can't make the cheating husband converge, try cold treatment. Cold treatment is to show your attitude and let the other party know that you know he has cheated, but you don't have to directly express your attitude, force the other party to divorce or make a choice, but ignore the other party. Just like the title of a well-known Western life novel "money without money, two oil sticks and one egg", don't take the cheating husband seriously. Maybe you used to love your husband very much, but since he chose to cheat, it means that he has betrayed his marriage and failed your love.

Such a man, it is not worth you to pay all for him again, at least before he chooses to turn back. In this case, no matter how much you love each other, you should put down your love for each other and temporarily treat each other as air. No matter whether he is at home or not, you should live alone. When the other side is ignored or even ignored, he will understand that it is impossible for the red flag to fly outside and the red flag at home. In this case, he will make a clear decision whether to choose a family or give up everything in front of him, and start with junior. However, to do so, women are often required to be more independent, including both economic and emotional aspects. If you can't do anything about it, it's hard to get rid of your dependence on your husband, so it's hard to achieve cold treatment. So in the case of her husband's infidelity, women need to grow up independent as soon as possible, because the man who once sheltered you from the wind and rain has changed his mind and everything depends on you.