4hw.com.cn: now wayward children can be seen everywhere. Now that the living conditions are good, parents are doting on their children so that they are more and more wayward. So what should children do if they are wayward?
How to deal with children's willful disobedience
Children's willful disobedience is the responsibility of adults
1. The usual oppression caused resistance
When children's willingness to move is forced by their parents, they will feel frustrated and frustrated. In addition, nearly 4-year-old children are in a period of self-awareness, strong rebellious spirit, they will think 'I prefer not to do what my parents asked me to do'. This is the saying that where there is oppression, there is resistance. '
2. Children fight their parents' rudeness with stubbornness
Children's self-control ability is poor, easy to impulse, thinking with one-sided and stereotyped characteristics, so easy to do anything. Parents don't understand their children's psychology and respond to their children's unreasonable demands by reprimand, beating and scolding without asking the reasons, which leads to their children's rebellious psychology, to fight against their parents' rudeness by stubbornness, and to aggravate their willful behaviors.
3. Improper parenting style of parents
With the improvement of living conditions and the increase of the proportion of the only child, many children have become the center of the family. They are lack of behavior norms and self-discipline consciousness. Some parents only pay attention to children's knowledge accumulation, but ignore the education of children's personality, behavior habits, social adaptability and other aspects. Such a way of education will inevitably lead to children's willfulness and irrationality.
4. Doting between generations
The old people's doting on their grandchildren will also cause their children's willfulness. They love their grandchildren and elders, and do whatever they want. Children are used to being treated like 'Little Emperors', and will naturally become very headstrong.
Note: willfulness is not a child's nature, but is formed in the course of postnatal upbringing. Parents' improper upbringing of children makes children catch willful 'bad habits'. Therefore, the process of helping children to correct is also the process of parents' making up for their previous education 'mistakes'. In this process, both parents and children should pay more efforts and patience.
How to deal with children's willful disobedience
How to deal with children's willful disobedience
1. Give children a buffer period
Give the child a buffer period, such as' play for another 10 minutes, we will be ready to go to bed. 'in another 10 minutes, we will go home'. When the scheduled time is up, we will implement it kindly and firmly. Children gradually develop habits, willful situation will be less and less.
2. Give the child a period of calm
If the child is in an emotional outburst period, parents may as well use the method of 'cold treatment', that is, to ignore, not to scold, not to beat and scold, so that the child feels that crying is useless and fails to achieve the purpose. When the child calms down, we should tell him why his parents just ignored him, and let him talk about the reasons for his temper, and then take the opportunity to persuade and educate him.
3. Let the child feel it
When playing parent-child games with children, let children feel it. For example, when playing 'cross house' with children, parents can play a wayward child, let children play parents, and see how children deal with 'disobedient children'. Some children will treat their parents the way they usually treat themselves, and some children will treat their parents the way they expect their parents to treat them. This is a good time for parents and children to think in a new way. You can also use the cartoon characters your children like to make up stories, so that they can experience in the stories -- what kind of feelings willfulness will bring to others.