Sihaiwang: with the opening of the two child policy, many mothers choose to have two children. In addition to the fact that the first child after 70 is already very big, many Dabao's 2-3-year-old mothers also want to have a second child. But a lot of moms are struggling when is the right time? Two treasure should differ with darling how old just don't affect the affection between two people? Apart from physical factors, there are basically several opinions about how old the difference between the two babies is suitable:
The difference in the age of the second child is better:
Ø: two babies are too close to each other. Adults are tired. You will go crazy if you come here busy;
Ø: with Xiaobao, it's more painful. A bowl of water can't be completely level, and you can't completely share your energy with two children. Maybe you unconsciously say that your brother and sister want to let your brother and sister, which is uncomfortable in the child's mind after listening to it. Obviously, it's not much. Why should you give priority to your brother and sister. It's easy for two children to quarrel and fight.
Ø in terms of children's education, it's also a little better. Otherwise, can you help the two children with their homework? And if a good result and a bad result, you can't help scolding one, it's easy to cast a psychological shadow on the child.
Ø it's better to have a big difference between the two children. Dabao's childhood was not affected, and he was not separated from his parents' love. When he was older, he would take the initiative to take care of his younger brother and sister. In particular, Dabao is a son, and Erbao is a daughter. His brother will hurt his sister even more.
Ø: if Dabao is a daughter, it's better to think that the difference between the two is a little bigger. In case the old man gives birth to a son in the second birth, then Dabao's life will be sad.
It is better to have a small age difference between two babies:
Ø: it's about two years old. Adults work hard for several years, and it's over in a flash. You are a few years older than your teens. I feel like I've been working hard for more than ten years to raise children. And they don't take two at once if they have twins.
Ø: the age difference is too big. It's easy for two children to have no common language before, and their feelings will be alienated. Age difference is small, grow up together, two people are close.
Ø: isn't it just to grow up with two children? There is a big age difference between the two children. Later, their children's age difference is also big. I feel that the baby is still lonely, and there is no one to play with her.
Ø: what kind of psychology is it for big treasure to help take care of small treasure? Is that unfair to Dabao?
Is the difference between two babies 2-3 years old the most suitable?
Ø: Yes, I'll go to a school and pick it up. Perfect! Moreover, Dabao's clothes and two treasures will not go out of fashion because of their age. The two babies can really grow up together. They have a good relationship. How nice to get married and have children together in the future.
Ø: beautiful you, 3 years old is a big hole. You now think about the right time. When a child takes the middle school entrance examination and a child takes the college entrance examination, you can cry. Where can you come from to coach two children who face different life examination rooms, and absolutely spit blood.
Consider these questions and have a second child:
Ø what's the age difference? The first thing to consider is not whether economic conditions allow or not, people's energy can not keep up with each other, and can we treat two children fairly emotionally? The premise of having a second child is that the child will not affect your economy, life and feelings.
&Before giving birth to a second child, learn from yourself: how to treat two children with a bowl of water, how to deal with the problem of getting along with each other, how to educate the children, etc.
&Take a look at the problems you may face in the future: the living expenses increase, the quality of life declines rapidly, the future conflicts between aunts and sisters in law, between sisters in law, between family property and real estate. Do you want to live?