Four seas network: when it comes to dating, we are not new. Although free love is advocated now, the number of people we know is limited due to the limitation of life circle. Many people choose the road of blind date to meet new people. A blind date is a process in which two strangers who don't know each other meet and chat with each other to get to know each other. Therefore, it's easy to meet the awkward situation of having nothing to talk about and not knowing what to talk about at the first meeting, so we lose the interest of further understanding. In order to avoid missing the right person, it is important to find the right topic for the first time so that the other person has more opportunities to understand themselves. The following content can help you get rid of the embarrassment.
Avoid selling yourself too much to each other
Too many family advantages and disadvantages will make the other party feel that you are an emotional dependent. If you encounter any unhappiness in the future, you will find him to pour out bitter water! Under this kind of negative psychological defense, few people are willing to have in-depth contact with you. On the contrary, when you meet for the first time, if you only skim the surface of your personal situation and say something about it, it will leave you a sense of mystery and look forward to meeting you next time!
Always leave time for each other to talk
Full respect for his right to speak social psychological research found that 27% of unsuccessful blind dates are due to the awkward situation that one side talks more and the other side is speechless! In life, people with opposite personalities can also become lovers, girlfriends, or blue Yan confidants, but for the first meeting, the two sides are not familiar with each other. From scratch, we should abide by the principle of absolute fairness. It is suggested that you try to leave time for each other to talk when you are talking, so that people can feel your consideration and equality.
Eyes focused on each other's' triangle 'wandering
The triangle formed by taking the other side's eyebrow center as the top angle and the two cheekbones as the bottom angle is called 'focus area' by psychologists. When you talk to the other person, if you keep your eyes away from the triangle area, it will leave a strong feeling of being paid attention to and focused on yourself, which will make people feel good to you! On the contrary, if you stare at the other person's eyes, it will make him hostile at the beginning.
Quickly find the intersection with each other
If the person you meet is quite different from your experience and your thinking mode is quite opposite, when you can't find a common topic, you should appropriately repeat the other party's views to show that you are in the same position with him. In this way, the other party will have a sense of self satisfaction, and double your liking!
Try to minimize gestures and words when speaking
The casual gestures and oral words will reveal your inner feelings when you speak. If the other person is a person who is proficient in psychology, your tension will be seized instantly, thus losing a series of advantages and initiative.
Lower one's strengths and value one's expertise
Don't just talk about your strengths, it will make the other person feel depressed. You can ask more questions about his hobbies and expertise, which will also arouse your new topic and communication desire.
Don't talk about heavy topics
Don't just ask for answers in order to promote understanding. Don't be inquisitive about the lovelorn, breakup, unemployment and other issues. Even if you are really curious, please wait until you are more familiar with them.
Please smile in the sunshine
Then smile the real smile is not so simple as the corner of the mouth up, but relax and do muscle exercises. Some studies have found that the infection effect of grinning is nearly 30% higher than that of sipping a smile. Don't worry about your uneven teeth. 70% of Asian men say that they like girls who often smile and have small tiger teeth! And women prefer to see the sunny side of men.
Make your own moves
Just like Julie and Pete, men are always so vicissitudes and women are always so gorgeous. In fact, you can also have your own profound actions, but don't be too affectation. If you really can't find a good signboard action, you may as well give each other a deep back image.
Believe in the first feeling, enlarge the sixth feeling
When the first feeling tells you that the person in front of you is worth continuing to communicate and get along with, you should enlarge your sixth feeling in time. When both the first feeling and the sixth feeling work, you should know how to do next.