How delicate is the relationship between college girls' dormitories? There used to be a hot topic on Weibo: 'how complicated is the relationship between girls? Six people in a dormitory and five wechat groups. 'netizens joked and shared their experiences. The reply of "black clothes big Ge Ge Ge" got 1433 praises, ranking first. "In fact, six groups were built by six people, one group didn't have a, so it's easy to say bad things about a, two groups didn't have B, and so on & hellip; & hellip; and one group you don't know, because that group didn't have you. "On the contrary, netizen 'Hangzhou' said: 'there are four people and four groups in the dormitory. Three of them are built for the birthday of the absent one. '
Originally, the dormitory group is a beautiful memory of the University. Every time we gather in the dormitories, we will read the funny names that we used to give to the dormitories, such as "gone with the wind", "United Nations", "Langyashan five heroes lack one" driver union ", and so on. "One day, the roommates slept together. In the afternoon, four of them stayed in bed and didn't remember. So we changed the group name, & lsquo; 728, see you in the afternoon! & rsquo. (this article is exclusively compiled by WYH, editor of sihai.com. If you need to reprint it, please indicate the source and source. Related article link: http://www.4hw.com.cn/life/zone.html)
At the beginning of the year, the junior star moved out of the dormitory to rent a house. The fuse is a small thing. In a group discussion class, three roommates disagreed with her entering the group. 'don't you have very close friends in other classes? Go to her, we've teamed up with others!' in her roommate's smiling reply, she felt unprecedented loss, 'I just think the whole world abandoned me, at that moment there will be such despair. Later, star learned that three roommates had been in a hot fight in another "three wechat group" and even pulled in other students in the class, but they didn't speak in the wechat group in the dormitory.
The most despairing thing for the stars is to 'isolate' her three roommates, including her best friend in her freshman year. The girl entered a small group of three people through "standing in line" to find her sense of belonging. In addition to bringing laughter and laughter, the dormitory wechat group sometimes becomes the abstract violence point of campus cold violence in the information age. People are social and convergent. When most people make a choice, others will automatically acquiesce to the result, which further increases the possibility of 'isolation'. (this article is exclusively compiled by WYH, editor of sihai.com. If you need to reprint it, please indicate the source and source. Related article link: http://www.4hw.com.cn/life/zone.html)
"At first, she was dissatisfied with one person. Later, the relationship between the dormitories became complicated. The second, third and even fifth groups appeared one by one. It's nothing but a yearning for the time when freshman had only one group. 'every time a new group appears, it affects everyone's heart. When she is not in the dormitory, will her roommate say bad things about her? When she is in the dormitory, will her roommate discuss something in the wechat group? The basic trust between people is broken.
It's reminiscent of a flash in the pan app in the circle of friends called 'secret'. The concept comes from the original secret in the United States, which focuses on anonymous social contact with acquaintances. This app creates a completely anonymous circle of friends for people. That is to say, the speech is anonymous and does not need to be responsible. Many people will share some friends' secrets in it, 'anyway, others don't know that I'm talking about him'. When you see someone else or satirize or tell your secret, you will doubt the people around you. Everyone speculates with each other and falls into a dead cycle. (this article is exclusively compiled by WYH, editor of sihai.com. If you need to reprint it, please indicate the source and source. Related article link: http://www.4hw.com.cn/life/zone.html)
There are 3 groups of 4 students in the dormitory of Huiyuan University. However, unlike the fierce wechat group relationship in front, the three wechat groups in the dormitory are open, and everyone defaults and respects this group relationship. At first, she overheard two people in the dormitory talking about things in the group that she could not see. The speaker is always unintentional and the listener is intentional. Later, when I got familiar with it, I found that it was not at all like this. Everyone has his own small group. It is also a person's basic accomplishment to respect the secret communication between others and their friends.
It doesn't matter how many groups there are in the dormitory. The key is whether you have an open and honest heart. Keep a respectful attitude towards other people's relationships, rather than exploring, doubting and suspecting. Just like the dormitory of Huiyuan, her roommate didn't mind telling her about the existence of other groups, and she also chose to respect them. This is not the result of passive acceptance, but the trust established after people get along with each other for a long time.
There are many wechat groups in the dormitory, which are just the embodiment of complex interpersonal relationships under the development of electronic communication. It's like a 'character relationship diagram' drawn by people for novels and games. It's dazzling with many arrows.