Now many parents send their children to kindergarten when their children are very young. How about sending them to kindergarten too early? How old is the child going to kindergarten? Let's talk about these issues today.
When is the best time for a child to go to kindergarten
It is suggested that children should go to kindergarten when they are three years old, and according to the relevant regulations of the state, children in small classes should be at least three years old.
Reason 1: children under three years old have weak resistance
Because the resistance of two-year-old children is the weakest, and kindergarten is a public place, no matter how good a kindergarten is, it will not be as good as one-on-one care at home. The younger the child is, the stronger the separation anxiety between the parent and the child. This kind of emotion will affect the child's eating, and then affect the child's resistance, so it is particularly easy to get sick. From the child's health or three-year-old kindergarten is the most appropriate.
Reason 2: children under the age of three need regular upbringing
Experts believe: children under two and a half years old should be one-on-one cared by their mothers. It is the most ideal way for parents to raise together. If we want children's brain to develop healthily, we need to stimulate their love. The interaction between parents and children is the best stimulus. Family and friends' love is the safest choice for children's development. What is lacking in kindergarten is this kind of influence. Even if we ask a nanny to look after the children at home, it is not as good as mother's taking care of them. What's more, most people don't have enough luck Find the ideal nanny.
Generally speaking, children need to be nurtured by fixed personnel and focused care. One-to-one parenting can better meet the needs of infants. The kindergarten teachers usually take care of several children by one person. She can not meet the needs of these children at the same time: milk, pee, play, care, etc. Moreover, if kindergarten teachers are not fixed and often change, such as teachers' illness, vacation and training, children with immature mind can not adapt.
The disadvantage of kindergarten when children are too early
1. Too early to care for children is more aggressive
Australian children's education experts point out in their book "raising children: should children under three enter kindergarten?" that more and more evidences support his theory that children who leave their parents to kindergarten early are more likely to develop aggressive character, antisocial behavior and other psychological problems. Such children will encounter interpersonal problems in the future and are not easy to build with others Establish a close relationship.
The same warning has been issued by UK children's authorities. After years of research, they found that children raised by their parents performed better in all aspects than those in kindergartens, nannies or relatives, and they were better than those in other control groups in physical, psychological and intellectual aspects.
Children experts pointed out that the early morning kindergarten will seriously affect children's brain development, emotional development, social behavior, cognitive ability training, in addition, their physical development is also slow, nervous atrophy, abnormal brain development, which are related to the failure to get one-to-one family care, so experts suggested that young children should be allowed to grow up in a warm and safe family environment, rather than It's premature to put them in kindergarten.
2. It's too early to enter the garden. The children are indifferent
First of all, from the perspective of children's psychological development, children are still in the stage of parent-child attachment before the age of 3, and it is better to give priority to family support; the time of leaving parents and families should not be too long. Six months to two years old is the special emotional connection stage between children and their parents. It is not until about two years old that children and their peers start to take initiative in social intercourse, and the children around two and a half years old gradually establish their sense of logic and order, so as to effectively carry out organizational interaction and life.
As the infant stage is the best period for the development of early attachment, early admission to the kindergarten will lead to children 's mental development is not mature enough, language development has limitations, do not understand the adjustment of emotions and other issues, which will lead to children' s strong psychological burden and become unwilling to take the initiative to socialize and express, lack of security, which will help children to establish good interpersonal relationship and enter into high-level emotional development in the future Will have an impact. Therefore, age appropriate behavior and education are essential to children's development. Do not hinder children's long-term development because of parents' opinions.
What should children do if they refuse to go to kindergarten? They should cultivate their ability of self-care in daily life
Since the child was one and a half years old, we have consciously told the child: 'baby, you have to do your own things',' baby can eat by yourself, great! ',' baby needs to wear this new dress? I believe that baby can wear it by yourself! 'slowly, children can do more and more things by themselves, and they are not willing to let Baba hemp hold them. Clothes should be matched by themselves, When you want to go to the toilet and sleep, you will also say it yourself, without us asking all the time.
Kindergarten is a kind of group life. Sometimes teachers can't take every child into consideration. If parents can cultivate their children's ability to eat, wear and take off clothes and sleep alone earlier, their children's life in kindergarten will be more convenient. If the child is afraid when sleeping alone, parents should explain to the teacher in advance and let the teacher take care of him.
If the child refuses to go to kindergarten, parents should encourage the child more and make the child look forward to going to school
In order to make children expect to go to school early, parents should give their children some positive encouragement. For example, say to the child: 'the baby is great! It's getting taller again, and the shoes are getting smaller. You can become a student. Congratulations!', 'the baby is really capable. You can sleep on your own. It must be the best performance at school!'. Do not stimulate children from the opposite side, for example, say to children: 'you will not obey, and when you go to school, there will be a teacher who specializes in you. 'it makes children more afraid of going to school.
Children don't want to go to kindergarten. They should be prepared to go to school to find belonging
For children, everything in kindergarten is strange. Teachers and students are the same as the utensils for eating and drinking water. In fact, it's very easy for children to find a sense of belonging in kindergarten.
First of all, parents can prepare some special supplies for their children, such as their schoolbags, water glasses, towels, pillows and quilts at home, and even one or two beloved toys. These familiar things can give children some psychological comfort.
If possible, go to the same kindergarten with your child's good friends. Many parents usually choose a kindergarten close to home. If there are children in their own community who also go to this kindergarten, then let them go to school together with their children's partners, and their separation anxiety will be reduced a lot.
Children refuse to go to kindergarten and should practice 'breaking up' more often
For example, take your child to a friend's house, tell her mother to go out for a while, and clearly tell her the time to come back, such as' mom goes shopping, and comes back to pick you up in an hour '. One hour later, keep the promise to show up on time. Slowly, the promise can be upgraded to:' today, my baby will go to school to see the teacher, and my mother will pick you up at 5 p.m. 'and try to say the same Do it, let children trust you a little more, separation anxiety will not be so strong.
Parents can also choose or create some opportunities to practice similar 'break-up' scenarios more often, so that their children can gradually get used to the short-term separation from their parents, but they should also abide by their commitments and let their children believe that what you say is trustworthy.
Children refuse to go to kindergarten, and they are familiar with the environment on the spot
Some babies can quickly adapt to the life of kindergarten from the very beginning, because they are familiar with kindergarten. After successful application and interview in kindergarten, parents are happy to tell their children every day that they can go to kindergarten immediately, which makes them feel very happy. I will also take my children to the school gate every day, tell them the way to go to school, teach them to recognize the name and number of the kindergarten, know the nearby buildings, bus stations, etc. slowly, my baby will feel that "going to school" is not so terrible.
It is suggested that parents can take their children to the school for sightseeing on the opening day of the kindergarten, and let them play slide and swing on the playground of the school, so as to meet and get familiar with the teacher. A child's memory of any beautiful moment in kindergarten may be the reason why she is willing to go to school.
If a child refuses to go to kindergarten, parents should learn to 'share education'
'baby, mom wants to go to kindergarten with you, but mom needs to go to work to earn money to buy toys for you. Would you like to go to kindergarten for her? "Mom is going to work, and when she comes back from school, she can share some of the children you know in kindergarten, and what fun things are there? Mom also wants to know!"
It's a pity that children can't go to kindergarten. Children also have a sense of mission when they go to school, and they will consciously participate in fun things in school.