What are the manifestations of procrastination and how to overcome it
4hw.com.cn: Nowadays, people's life pressure is generally increased. In the work and study tasks, people will have procrastination psychology in the face of various pressures. How long can it be delayed? However, in the end, it will not solve the problem, but will make the heart more anxious and tense. So what are the manifestations of procrastination in life? How to overcome procrastination? Let's have a look with Xiaobian.
What are the manifestations of procrastination in daily life?
1. I love to sleep in bed. I get up late. No matter what time, I can sleep as long as I am quiet;
2. In order to form the habit of getting up on time, we will set multiple alarm clocks, but we will wait until the last alarm clock rings to tell ourselves to get up, or even give up the idea of getting up early, and we will quietly make up our mind to change the habit of staying in bed tomorrow, and then fall asleep again;
3. Always play with mobile phone before going to bed. Always put it down until your eyes are sore and dizzy. You can't even remember how you fell asleep until you wake up the next day and find your mobile phone falling on the head of the bed;
4. Often miss the planned time to go to bed, and then constantly tell yourself to go to bed early, but still stay late the next day, or even later;
5. Make up your mind to lose weight, but the plan has been delayed day after day, or you can't hold on to it, and you will fall when you see delicious food;
6. When playing a game, always say "play another game, and then you won't play", but the result is often another game after another one;
7. When dating, you can't arrive on time, only the difference between being late more or less;
8. Clearly know what should be prepared in advance, but always can't prepare enough, the result is generally to go step by step, and do it with a stiff head, just think about it;
9. When you do something, you usually have to wait until the whole time, such as 9:00, 9:30, 10:00 & hellip; & hellip; generally, you don't start until the next whole time;
10. I had planned to do one thing, but it was also easy to be distracted by other small things. I made a cup of coffee first, or played with my mobile phone for a while, and thought it would not be a big problem to delay for a while;
11. Usually my room is in a mess, so I won't have time to clean it up;
12. I often feel regret after the event. If I had started earlier, I would have done things more urgently. But I can't correct it next time.
10 tips to overcome procrastination
1. Comparison -- let yourself accept it psychologically.
When I think deeply about why procrastination occurs, I realize that procrastination is actually a kind of self deception. We are born lazy, I have to admit that if there is a comfortable and warm quilt, I would not like to get up to go out to the cold. Since ancient times, we humans have evolved a self-protection function, that is, to stay away from the harmful and tend to the beneficial. This enables us to better survive in harsh environments, which is an inherent mechanism of our brain. Then, the essence of procrastination is also related to this. We prefer to do simple and happy things rather than painful work.
Then, I used this feature to invent the comparison method, which is actually to deceive our brain, because our brain can't compare and is easy to be deceived. For example, someone might take a taxi to B store to buy a pen of 30 yuan in a store for the same price of 20 yuan. As a result, it costs 15 yuan by car.
This method is to select another task B in your task list that is easier than task a you don't want to do at this time, and then tell yourself that a and B must complete one at this time, and you can choose by yourself. So, as a brain, it must be easier to do B, so let's do B. In fact, there may be tasks C, D and e that are easier to do than B. In this way, we succeed in deceiving ourselves, making ourselves feel no longer afraid psychologically, and we can act immediately. Then, we can find a more difficult task s than a, so that we have a reason to do a. It's a self deception, but it works.
2. Cut off the interference source - make yourself more focused.
There are many interference sources in our life, such as cell phones, computers, networks, etc. when we want to concentrate on one thing, especially when we want to delay to tomorrow, one other's SMS may let us shift our attention, do other things, and even it is difficult to return to the original state. What we need to do is to simplify all the interference sources around us, and cut off all the things that might interrupt our focus. When I write my own articles, I will disconnect from the Internet, mute my mobile phone, find a unique environment and start writing until I finish writing. It's very important to stay focused. I might have finished the work in less than an hour. So the time I saved can be used to relax completely. In this way, we can finish the task and have a good rest.
3. Prohibit multi task operation - become simple and efficient.
Although our brain is a multitasking operating system, we can sing while bathing, while listening to music while cooking. But sometimes, single thread work can let us maintain a high degree of attention, let us finish tasks faster, so as to reduce the number of delays, and cultivate a good habit of immediate completion.
4. Don't pursue perfection - give yourself a low starting point.
Sometimes, because of our psychology of pursuing perfection, we are worried about all kinds of possible problems before we start to do one thing. The final result is that we are too late to start to do it, which makes the task delay. In fact, we can set a very low starting point for ourselves. For example, if I want to achieve 200 push ups in one breath, I can only do 10 on the first day and increase to 15 on the second day. In this way, the starting point is very low, so I prefer to believe that I can finish it without suffering, and I dare to start, rather than just stay in the fantasy stage. Most of the tasks we delay are because we think it is too difficult and painful. When we lower the starting point, we will do it immediately.
5. Believe in your own strength - never lose confidence.
One of the people I hate most is telling people all day, 'you can't do it, you can't do it, your idea is stupid. 'this kind of person doesn't know how many people with dreams have been wiped out, and the colorful world of others has become gray and helpless. If you believe in yourself, ignore the weak. They say you can't because they didn't do it.
In fact, we all have this kind of people in our hearts. When we face difficulties, there will be a voice telling us, 'you can't do it, you can't do it, it's very difficult and painful. 'if it's a real person, we may tell him angrily' I can do it! 'but what if you change to yourself? How much courage do we have to overcome our inner cowardice? It is the voices of these weak people that have shaken our firm belief in how much we can change the world. I think there's only one solution - start now and once you do, don't be afraid.
6. It's ridiculous to wait for others - the only one who really can be relied on is himself.
Sometimes there is only one real way to accomplish a task, that is to do it by yourself. We should never have the idea of entrusting others, because it is very unreliable, even if this person is accurate like a clock, it has a day when the battery runs out and stops. We sometimes hope that others can do something, rather than do it ourselves. Although it's painful, we can master the progress of the work, rather than trying to urge others.
7. Create a procrastination task list - even if we procrastinate, we should also procrastinate.
Well, if we really can't overcome procrastination, then why don't we use this bad habit to serve us? Bohua has set up a procrastination task list for myself. In this list, I list many things I usually don't have time to do - such as learning gardening, reading an interesting book, etc. These list of things are very meaningful and not offensive little things. Whenever I really don't want to continue to do one thing, I will open the procrastination list to pick one thing to do. In this way, I can not only satisfy my psychology of procrastination, but also do things that I usually don't have time to do. Sometimes, we can't overcome procrastination, so why don't we change our perspective and enjoy it?
8. Procrastination is just an idea - never start.
Your mind will indicate that you are going to eat the cake when you are losing weight, or that you are going to take the cigarettes from others when you are quitting smoking, or that you will delay the task that should have started until tomorrow. Well, are you really that obedient? We must make it clear that when a person is motivated to kill, it does not mean that he has killed that person. Similarly, when the idea of procrastination begins to hover in our mind, what we need to do is to wait and see, rather than accept the instructions of our own mind. There is a Buddhist point of view called "watching". When we have evil thoughts in our hearts, we need to sit there quietly and look at our inner world from the perspective of the third person. Some bad ideas, let them disappear slowly, do not judge, do not move. When we want to procrastinate, tell ourselves it's just an idea, I won't do it, because once we do it, it can't be changed.
9. Set the focus time to make yourself more efficient.
When I don't want to do something, I usually set a timer for myself, such as 20 minutes. I told myself to focus on the task in front of me within 20 minutes without any excuse until the alarm rang. After 20 minutes, I will rest for 5 minutes, and then set the next 20 minutes. When we set the countdown for ourselves, we will have a psychological sense of urgency, which will make us pay more attention to complete the task. When there is interference, I will take a look at the countdown, implying that I will hold on for another 3 minutes. This method is very effective. Time management is to divide large time into small pieces, which is easier for us to operate, and it is an idea of breaking up into parts.
10. Break down the task -- the secret of starting action
No matter how big a task is, it can also be divided into many small subtasks. Each subtask can be allocated to its own available time. When all subtasks are completed, a seemingly impossible and arduous task can also be solved. The essence of breaking down tasks is to simplify. Break down the tasks you want to delay into 10 very simple subtasks. You only need to complete one subtask first, and then tell yourself that this task has been completed by one tenth. I can take a rest first, and then start the next subtask. In this way, we can act quickly instead of being afraid of procrastination.