We often see the news that our wives beat junior high on the street. In fact, the probability of women cheating in real life is relatively high! So for men, the most frightening thing is that their women wear "green hats" for themselves. So in the face of his wife's infidelity, what should a man do? Choose to forgive or continue to live?
Here are four suggestions for men from Xiaobian. Please weigh them:
First of all, think about your inner balance
In the case of couple counseling, there is such a rule. If there is no 'problem of principle' between the two sides, they will often run in and repair well. And if one side has a 'principled problem', the marriage will face a severe test. Infidelity and infidelity are obviously 'issues of principle'. Because, the wife derails this kind of thing, can cause the husband to feel the huge imbalance in the heart mostly. Just like the great sense of injustice and resentment in the hero's heart in the story. If you want the marriage to continue, you must be able to balance the inner pain and imbalance. If there is no balance, then when we live and face each other in the future, the relationship between the two sides will be in an imbalance, and it is difficult to develop for a long time. Sometimes, when the mirror breaks, it's really broken and hard to recover. This is often the case after an affair or infidelity.
Second, start self reflection
'flies don't bite seamless eggs' is not rude. There must be something wrong with your marriage first, and then someone in your marriage will go to look for an extra marital trust. Therefore, the man who wants to meet his wife's infidelity can calm down and think about whether he has neglected his wife's feelings for a long time in his marriage, or just loves her according to his feelings, but what he gives is not what his wife wants. If you think about it like this, you may reduce some of the anger and resentment against your cheating wife. At the same time, it will make the wife feel that the husband can understand her a little and help to repair the relationship between the two people.
Third, reexamine your relationship
From the above stories, we can feel the deep love of the husband for his wife. Even if she did something that hurt her husband, he still wanted to continue. However, it is worth thinking whether the wife loves her husband equally. The feeling of the story is that a husband loves his wife more than his wife does, or much more. The husband needs to think about the love he gives her, is it really the love she needs? If not, you also need to calm down and seriously think about whether you two are really suitable for each other.
Fourth, to see if the wife has a clear attitude towards marriage
What makes me not optimistic about the above marriage is my wife's attitude towards cheating after being found out. Her attitude has not improved significantly. Let me question whether she still loves her husband and her attitude towards marriage. Maybe two people need to have a thorough talk. If the husband wants to continue the marriage, he should first see his wife's clear attitude towards the future of the marriage. Is her heart still in the marriage? Or at least willing to return to the marriage? This is very important. Otherwise, the husband's forgiveness is just a chance to get hurt again.
Conclusion: a man is willing to forgive his wife for cheating. It must be the man who deeply loves the woman. But only one person's love is not enough to maintain a marriage, so sometimes love can also bring harm. Please men seriously consider and measure the above four points, and then make their own decisions for your marriage.