Mr. He, 29, has never been in love. In June this year, Mr. He visited a marriage website, and then received a call from the other party, saying that they had a girl who just met Mr. He's standard. Persuaded by the salesperson, Mr. He paid 18800 yuan to become a VIP member.
However, the contract ended on September 19. Mr. He saw only four girls, three of whom left wechat. " It's equivalent to spending four or five thousand yuan to see a person, and then there's nothing left. " Mr. He said that so far, he is not confident that the three women can succeed hand in hand.
According to the person in charge, the marriage website guarantees to introduce women to meet Mr. He, but can it succeed in holding hands?
Mr. Li, the person in charge, also pointed out that the agreement signed between Mr. He and the website did not specify that the website must help him end his singles within three months. Therefore, although matchmaker will try to promote hand-in-hand success during the service, it can not be guaranteed.
Under the coordination of the reporter, Mr. Li promised to try his best to help Mr. He screen suitable meeting objects in the rest of the time, and the matchmaker will also try to help Mr. He communicate and guide.
See what netizens say
@Allerednic Xue: they called me and told me about the process and situation. I think it's a lie. I can't believe it.
@Xger Xiaoge foreign trade: be generous with the favorite girls around you and ask them out. It's more likely.
@Momentary 219: I'd rather believe what three aunts and six aunts introduced than this kind of website.
@Wangpu fish: spent 18000 yuan in three months and saw four people & hellip& hellip; It's better to use the money to go to the gym or travel. It's better to expand the social circle.
@kayako_ C: After working on a marriage website for five years, my husband was introduced by his family... Never believe in online dating ~ of course, there are individual successful cases~
@I love cats and dogs: me too! Cheated! I've seen about a dozen on a well-known dating website, so I don't care! At the beginning, I was very positive. After the deadline, I didn't pay much attention. I took the initiative to contact their staff.
Recently, the media reported that a girl in '93 said she had been dating more than 50 times and couldn't find a close eye. " Women don't rush to marry, men don't rush to marry '. The independence of thought, the singleness of community and the pressure of work make the post-90s marriage concept very different from their predecessors. According to statistics, the marriage rate in China was only 7.2 & permil; in 2018;, Hit a 10-year low. High divorce rate, practical pressure after marriage and high expectations have become incentives.
Expert advice
Virtual perfect human design should not be substituted into real life
Many young people say that wechat friends are increasing, but real friends are decreasing. Ma Lianping, Secretary of the Party branch of Nanjing love transmission social work service center, suggested that the community can provide some meaningful public welfare activities for young people to participate in, so that young people can make friends in public welfare activities and improve the quality of making friends. In addition, young people's view of marriage and love is also changing. Young women's independence makes them no longer rely on marriage. Many post-90s girls say it's better not to get married before divorce. In this regard, Ma Lianping believes that the community should do a good job in publicizing the correct concept of marriage and love. Two people should cherish each other, tolerate each other and grow together.
In view of the current phenomenon that young women are unwilling to get married, counselor Xi Shiyang said that in addition to the high divorce rate and the practical pressure after marriage, excessive addiction to film and television plays is also an important factor. Every girl has her own prince charming or movie characters in her heart, and substitutes the virtual perfect human design into real life, resulting in a great gap between expectation and reality, so it is difficult to talk about the right object. Facing anxious parents, Xi Shiyang said that first of all, parents should learn to accept the current situation of their children, do not increase their children's pressure and give their children freedom. Then, when communicating with children about relevant issues, we should avoid the use of instructional conversation, understand the children's confusion and give children trust. The post-90s are adults and have the ability to make choices. What parents should do is to give advice rather than give orders.