What does Oedipus complex mean? Summary of reasons and characteristics of Oedipus complex
Oedipus complex is an early psychological consolidation of children. It is a period when children form self-awareness and self family status awareness on the basis of their initial understanding of their parents and affirming their relationship. What causes men to have Oedipus complex is usually mommy's strong and arbitrary. Even if the baby has grown up, there is still a subconscious desire to control the baby. Is it normal to have an Oedipus complex? How did Oedipus complex come into being? What harm does Oedipus complex have?
1、 What is Oedipus plot
Oedipus complex, translated into Chinese as Oedipus complex, Oedipus complex and Oedipus complex. Generally speaking, it refers to a psychological tendency of people, like the feeling of being with their mother. Oedipus complex is not love, but mostly comes from an appreciation and admiration for mother. Is a common social phenomenon, boys and girls may have Oedipus complex. Most people more or less have an Oedipus complex at a certain age, while almost everyone has an Oedipus complex in childhood.
2、 Reasons for the formation of Oedipus plot
Due to the environmental conditions in infancy and early childhood, every child is eager to get sexual satisfaction from opposite sex parents and resents same-sex parents. Both primitive and civilized societies have principles and taboos against incest, so these desires are felt in the dark, but they are always buried in the depths of the subconscious.
Sometimes, the repressed Oedipus complex breaks through the blockade of the subconscious and sneaks into the consciousness. But they appear in the form of imitation. Obviously, this form will not be opposed by us. Oedipus complex is expressed in our life in the form of camouflage. What we often see is that a man marries a woman who is much older, and a girl kills her mother for some reason. Some people are afraid of marriage, others show too much desire to get married (or divorce). These examples are the manifestations provided to us by society.
Oedipus complex, like other elements of psychoanalytic theory, implies that ordinary people have extremely primitive feelings. For most people, this concept is an insult to their moral background, and they are not easy to accept this feeling. Even if someone only hints at the word 'incest', they will immediately have a strong aversion. For this reason, the theory of Oedipus complex often causes great shock to many people.
3、 Psychological characteristics of Oedipus plot
1. The Oedipus complex can be understood as that the imperfect family rearing model isolates the communication with the outside world, resulting in children's inability to obtain satisfaction in the opposite sex or other heterosexuals. When this desire for heterogenesis is blocked, it can only be transferred to the mother. After all, the mother is also a heterosexual. Oedipus complex is a common human condition. Only when the child enters the external environment will this attachment transfer.
2. The general pattern of human beings is to be more interested in young and reproductive heterosexuals. Children are no exception. At the same time, a more mature style of dealing with people and a more habitual lifestyle also have a great impact on people.
3. Abnormal monopolization, control and strong sexual desire for mother. After these desires exist, they will be expressed in different ways. Some people will change into peeping behavior, some people will change into Fetish behavior, some people will change into single home, and so on. On the one hand, they have a high degree of excitement, on the other hand, they have a high degree of anxiety and guilt. This dual feeling exists in any adult with Oedipus complex.
4、 Performance of Oedipus plot
1. Irresponsibility, lack of initiative and independence
Men with Oedipus plot generally have everything arranged by their mother from small to large. Therefore, even when they grow up, they need their mother to make up their mind and dare to do it with the consent of their mother. Sometimes they need to restrain their desires and ideas. Because they are too attached to their mother, their way of thinking and behavior are easy to be feminine. He is also a coward in society and lacks the sense of autonomy. In the face of difficulties or failures, it is difficult to be alone and will only evade responsibility.
2. Especially sticky mother
Oedipus complex had no obvious symptoms when I was young, and it became relatively complex before I got rid of it when I grew up. Therefore, when I was a child, the most obvious thing about Oedipus was that it was particularly attached to my mother. For example, I liked sleeping with my mother and was unwilling to leave my mother, even for a short time. Even if some Oedipus are serious, they have to live with their mother even if they are married. They discuss everything with their mother, and sometimes they don't even discuss with their wife. Therefore, the man of Oedipus plot will be the root of the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
3. Pursue older women
There are many men who still have Oedipus complex when they grow up. Because of their psychological cognition, they are easy to have a good impression or sexual desire for older women. When they look for a partner when they grow up, they will subconsciously choose older women who are somewhat similar to their mother. The wife who is older than herself cannot tolerate the unconditional obedience of her husband to her mother, so there will be more and more family contradictions.
4. It is difficult to form a stable relationship in love
A man with an Oedipus plot generally has these two situations in looking for a partner: one is to get his mother's consent and behave well. As long as his mother thinks a bad girlfriend will not last long; The other is the 'Playboy' type, which is difficult to love any woman for fear of taking responsibility.