My daughter is now in the fifth grade. From her birth to now, we try our best to teach her scientifically, and try to create a democratic atmosphere and a relaxed environment for her family. At present, our family has a harmonious relationship, good communication, healthy and lively children, and thrive. It's very gratifying to see that children perform well in their studies. Over the years, I have had a very profound experience in educating children. Here is my experience in educating children.
1. Educate children to set an example.
Both of us are teachers. Through years of observation, we found that many of the students' shortcomings can be found in their parents. Therefore, we should educate our children to restrain themselves and regulate their behaviors first, so that they can have a good example. Without much preaching from our parents, their children will follow suit. So we should use good environment and example to influence and edify children. Children's imitation ability is very strong. They are often influenced by the surrounding environment and imitate people or things around them. Therefore, the living environment of the family and the role model of parents are a kind of 'silent education'. My wife and I never play cards or mahjong, read books and TV during the break time, or check the materials needed online. We also bought many ancient and modern historical classic books, such as four masterpieces, encyclopedia, idiom story, one thousand and one nights, selected Grimm's fairy tales and some biographies of heroes and scientists suitable for children's reading, My wife also likes books on Chinese learning, and my daughter sometimes learns some. We intend to cultivate the habit of "making friends with books" for our daughter. These good habits will affect her life and are beneficial and harmless to her life development.
2. Actively cooperate with teachers to educate children.
The teacher plays a very important role in children's study. Fortunately, my daughter's teacher is a very responsible and good teacher. She has rich teaching experience and is very popular with students. As a parent, we should contact more with teachers, care about children's performance in school, discuss children's bad habits with teachers, and correct mistakes in time. In this way, the teacher can understand your child more comprehensively, which is more conducive for the teacher to start from the child's personality and find a more suitable education method for the child. Because of this, we should always teach our children to respect their teachers and listen to them carefully. It is the great thing of a teacher to be a teacher one day and a father all his life.
III. develop children's living ability and behavior habits
Most of today's children have been trained as "little emperor" and "little princess". They live a life of reaching for their hands in clothes and opening their mouths in meals, let alone knowing how to be grateful. At home, we consciously ask our daughter to do what we can. For example, at the age of seven, let her sleep in a room alone; at the age of eight, she will wash her hair and take a bath; at night, when she is alone, she will watch TV after finishing her homework. When it's time, she will sleep first; she will take the initiative to help wash the dishes & hellip; & hellip; except for the normal pocket money, we rarely give her money, because she has no money since she was a child The habit of eating snacks at random. She will ask our permission in advance for anything she wants to buy. Sometimes we will intentionally or unintentionally say in front of children how hard it is for adults to work outside and how difficult it is to make money, so that children naturally know how to cherish and appreciate. In addition, when cleaning, you can ask her to be responsible for cleaning her room, while adults are responsible for other places. On the one hand, it makes her feel the hard work of her parents, on the other hand, it also cultivates the ability to live independently, so that she can win the respect of her children and cherish all that she has done.
4. Learn to think in a transposition and not put too much pressure on children
When my daughter was in the first grade, she was younger than the average person. At the beginning, she didn't know anything about reading. Chinese performance is always a little worse than others, mathematics has also failed the exam. As a parent, we were very anxious at that time, but we did not blame her, nor did we arrange extra-curricular questions to force her to study, nor did we stipulate how high she must score in the exam. It starts from the cultivation of good learning habits, reminds her to listen carefully in class and not to be influenced by the interference of her classmates. After school, she should first complete the homework independently, look up the dictionary if there is a problem, and don't rely on the guidance of her parents. Step by step, imperceptibly, her grades are gradually improving. From grade three to now, she is a top three student every year. She often gets full marks in mathematics. It is often said that children need to have tutoring classes on weekends, learn musical instruments or dances, and practice every day after learning, so that children have little time to rest and relax. In my opinion, unless the child is very willing to learn, if forced, it is not desirable. We should fully respect children's nature and tap their potential. Children are small and playful in nature. They should have enough time to play and relax and do things they enjoy. We once took our daughter to study erhu. Later, we found that she was not interested in painting, so we gave up erhu. She insisted on learning painting until now, and she enjoyed it.
5. Communicate with children and pay attention to appropriate rewards and punishments
Focus on daily communication with children to help them overcome their shortcomings. Find out the advantages and disadvantages of children from the details, help children to play their advantages and make up for their shortcomings, and timely find out the changes of children, praise and encourage progress, criticize and correct mistakes, prevent from getting too small, prevent from getting into trouble before it happens, and ensure the healthy growth of children. We pay great attention to the communication with our children. We talk about what happened at school with our children every day. From her talk, we can find her progress or problems. If there is progress, we should praise her in time. If there are mistakes, we should seriously criticize her. But the scale of praise and criticism should be well grasped. It's better not to use material and money, but to give priority to spiritual rewards. Not only that, but also a comprehensive understanding of the partners who often play with children, the so-called "near the red, near the black". If it is found that there are bad habits among the students who have close contact, it is necessary to teach her not to be affected by the bad habits of others, and pay attention to the distance with such people.
The above are our experiences and practices in educating our children. Each child has different characters and characteristics. We believe that every family also has successful experiences and methods in educating their children. Therefore, we should continue to learn and learn from other families how to educate their children. The ultimate goal is only one, that is to make children healthy Healthy growth!