In China, the indispensable custom of marriage is the bride price and dowry. In ancient times, the man needed to pay the bride price at the woman's house before marriage, and the woman would marry to the man's house with the dowry when she got married. But now most young people get married because the man buys more, so what should girls buy when they get married?
01. Money or car
The money or car is not absolute. It is decided by the two sides through negotiation. Common situations are as follows:
① The man buys a house and the woman buys a car;
② The woman bears part of the house purchase money, which is also regarded as a dowry with money;
③ The man buys a house and the woman pays for decoration as a dowry;
④ The man will give the bride price as much as the woman will give back the dowry, so as not only to follow the traditional etiquette, but also not to cause pressure on both sides;
⑤ The woman uses the man's bride price money to buy some wedding and future life needs, and the rest is taken back by the woman as a dowry.
In short, we should negotiate according to local customs and the economic situation of both families. The above is only for reference.
02. Jewelry
Not only will the mother-in-law give her new daughter-in-law some three gold jewelry, but also when her daughter gets married, her parents will give her daughter some gold jewelry, such as dragon and Phoenix bracelets, necklaces, etc.
On the one hand, I wish my daughter a happy marriage with the beautiful meaning of gold. On the other hand, I also give my daughter gold as private money, so that she can have money after she marries. Some parents will give their daughter their wedding jewelry or heirloom as a dowry.
In any case, the jewelry given to her by her parents is her personal property and a guarantee for her
03. Money in the dowry box
Many places have the custom of sending a dowry box as a dowry. Dowry boxes are usually two red boxes, one large and one small. You can buy suitcases or suitcases.
The pressure box money should be put in the dowry box, which means that the daughter will have a higher status when she marries her husband's family with money. It is also a blessing for her daughter to live a rich life after marriage.
● how much is the pressure box?
This should be determined according to the situation of the mother's family and the negotiation between the two families. You can only put 66, 666 yuan and other lucky money symbolically to make a good color head, or you can simply put all or part of the dowry money into the box and give it to your daughter in the form of money in the box.
Some places pay attention to putting 3333 yuan into the box. After unpacking, the mother-in-law's family puts double 6666 yuan into the box, which adds up to 9999 yuan. First, bless the new couple for a long time, and second, it can be regarded as a living expense given by both parents to the young couple first.
● how to put the money in the pressure box?
If only a few are placed symbolically, they can be pressed in the four corners or the center of the box. If there is a lot of money, it is generally placed in circular, fan-shaped, double fan-shaped and other patterns, which looks more imposing and auspicious. Big money is placed on the periphery and small money is placed in the middle.
● what else should I put in the dowry box?
The dowry box should not only put money in the pressure box, but also put the bride's new clothes to wear after marriage, the jewelry given by her mother's family, 'Jujube born cinnamon' and happy eggs.
When placing, first shop the new clothes at the bottom, then put jewelry and happy eggs, lay a box of money, and sprinkle 'Jujube begets cinnamon'. After they are all put away, lock the box and insert the cypress branches, which means eternal youth.
04. Bedding
The bedding to be placed on the wedding bed and used after marriage on the wedding day is generally bought by the woman and brought to the new house as a dowry. Generally, even sets of 4, 6, 8 and 12 should be prepared, and they should be brand-new. There are also some places that pay attention to "eight shops and eight covers", that is:
● shop 1: the red bedding to be laid on the wedding day, which means happiness and auspiciousness
● shop 2: Pink Bedding for honeymoon, implying happiness and romance
● shop 3-6: one set of bedding each year
● shop 7-8: give a set of bedding to both parents
● covers 1-4: down quilt, silk quilt, air conditioning quilt, blanket, and all quilts throughout the year
● cover 5-6: give a quilt to both parents
● cover 7-8: mattresses and pillows are also necessary
We should follow local customs, but it's basically not wrong to buy according to the above. If you want to be more auspicious, the patterns can be hundreds of children and thousands of grandchildren, peony flowers, dragon and Phoenix, etc. It's best to have a set of red when buying bedding.
05. Household appliances
In many places, women will buy household appliances as dowry, but it is not absolute. It depends on whether there is a need for the new home and what they lack. Generally, it includes:
● large household appliances: refrigerator, color TV, washing machine, air conditioner, etc.
● small household appliances: rice cooker, vacuum cleaner, microwave oven, juicer, electric kettle, etc.
06. Traditional dowry supplies
In order to wish the little couple a happy life, Chinese traditional customs stress that the woman should prepare some daily necessities as a dowry, mainly including:
① 1 pair of children and grandchildren:
● put 8 items in a bucket: safflower, red jujube, longan, five Red duck eggs, popcorn, a bundle of chopsticks, a packet of toilet paper and a small bundle of cypress branches.
● the other bucket is filled with rice and sprinkled with red dates, longan and cypress branches.
Both barrels shall be covered with red letters and wrapped in large red cloth.
② 1 pair of red washbasins:
● put in a basin: one shoe, one sock and one hat bought by the bride for her father-in-law. Socks, three peanuts and two sweets should be put in the shoes.
● put in another basin: a healthy scale and a basin of evergreen with seeds
In both pots, there are 'early born noble son' and cypress branches covered with red characters.
③ 1 pair of sugar cans:
Put some happy candy in it, which means sweetness
④ 1 pair of press dolls:
▷ How to buy and place the press doll here
⑤ Other daily necessities:
1 pair of gold and silver bowls and chopsticks, 2 spoons, 1 pair of dragon and Phoenix slippers, 2 sets of pajamas, 2 sets of underwear, 2 pairs of socks, 1 set of toothbrush and tooth cup, 2 toothpaste, 2 hot water bottles, 2 towels, 2 bath towels, 1 soap box, 1 round or heart-shaped mirror and 1 pair of round or heart-shaped combs.
*All the above items should be red and pasted with small words to symbolize happiness and auspiciousness.
07. Daily necessities
If you are willing to use the above red daily necessities, you will save a lot of money on this item, but you should buy those with better quality, not just furnishings.
However, AI believes that most people should not be willing to use the above red products for daily use, so the above products can be bought with high cost performance, and then buy some daily necessities according to your preferences and practicability.
In addition, we also need to buy some kitchen supplies, including spices such as firewood, rice, oil, salt, soy sauce, vinegar and tea, as well as pots and pans, knives and spoons.
PS: when should the dowry be sent?
Generally, on the day before the wedding or the morning of the wedding, the woman sends her brother or other male junior to the man's house with all the dowry. After arriving at the man's house, the man should give the dowry giver happy cigarettes, candy and money, and then the woman's brother can give the key to the dowry box to the man. Of course, the details should be determined according to local customs.
Use it on the day of the ceremony, and the rest is for you after marriage. Just focus on your preferences and practicability.
In addition to the dowry, in fact, when preparing for the wedding, not all expenses must be paid by the man. Whether in terms of traditional customs or harmony between the two sides, there are also some wedding products that need to be purchased by the woman. Both sides bear the burden together, and the economic pressure will be less.
01. Men's dress and related accessories
Generally, the man's clothes on the wedding day are bought by the woman, mainly including:
Dresses, shirts, leather shoes, belts, ties, tie clips, socks, cufflinks, etc. some also give men's watches to show their wishes.
02. Women's wedding dress and related accessories
Wedding dress is a girl's dream. Girls must choose what they like. As for the purchase, the woman can buy it by herself, or the man can pay after the woman selects it. This is determined through negotiation.
In addition to the wedding dress, there are wedding shoes, headdress, gloves, jewelry matching the wedding dress, underwear, socks, as well as the cost of makeup, hairdressing and manicure. Most of these are paid by girls. Of course, it's no problem that boys are willing to buy them.
03. Wedding bag
Wedding bag is the handbag to be used by the bride on the wedding day. Generally, it should be selected that the bride likes and matches with the dress, so most girls buy it themselves and can continue to use it after marriage.
04. Clothes for parents and parents in law on the wedding day
Girls have a better eye for choosing clothes, so it's best for girls to choose the clothes that parents and parents-in-law should wear on the wedding day. If they buy them, they can all buy them. After all, they all say that their daughter is their parents' close fitting cotton padded jacket. Of course, male and female students can buy their parents' clothes respectively.
05. New clothes for married couples
It is customary to say that for a period of time after marriage, the new couple should wear new clothes, especially the bride should wear red clothes, so they also need to buy some new clothes in advance before marriage. This can be bought by girls or negotiated by both parties.
06. Decoration articles for the woman's wedding room
On the wedding day, the wedding room decoration supplies, that is, characters, flowers, balloons, etc., are generally bought by both men and women. However, if the woman is willing, she can also buy both. After all, the ability of straight men's wedding room is questionable? You don't want the colorful background in the photo, so the woman can also bear the small cost for the wedding effect.
07. Invitations, hand gifts, etc
Similarly, it would be better for the woman to choose these small objects that are extremely aesthetic and careful. The woman is also more interested in the wedding and can choose invitations and hand gifts that are more in line with the wedding style. Moreover, if boys pay most of the wedding expenses, then girls bear this small part of the expenses, which is also conducive to the harmonious relationship between the two sides.
08. Head flower, red umbrella, etc
In addition, there are some custom supplies and small items to be used for the wedding, such as red envelopes, red umbrellas, headflowers to be worn by relatives, red belts to be worn by the bride, disposable red paper cups, etc. they are mostly used by the woman's family, so they are mostly purchased by the woman.
Of course, the customs are different in different regions and the situation of each family is also different. Therefore, the above is only for reference. Specifically, we should ask the elders of both sides and focus on negotiation and communication. In short, the wedding is only the beginning, and a happy life after marriage is the most important. It is the basic principle not to quarrel!