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Official matchmaker training courses to curb sky high bride price from the source

Official matchmaker training courses to curb sky high bride price from the source

4hw.com.cn: sky high bride price is now a common phenomenon in many parts of the country, which leads many young people to fear that they can't afford to get married. Recently, a regional official opened a matchmaker training course to curb the proliferation of sky high bride price from the source. Let's have a look.

On April 3, the first "matchmaker" training course was jointly organized by five units, including the new era civilization practice center, the District Rural Revitalization office, the district education and training center, the district Judicial Bureau and the District Women's Federation of Yujiang District, Yingtan City. Public information from the district government website mentioned that we should curb the occurrence of high price bride price and eliminate the old concept of "getting rich overnight" by marrying women.

Matchmakers are also considered to be the promoters of 'sky high betrothal gifts'. In this training course, more than 180 matchmakers from the whole region were gathered. According to local media reports, in order to better regulate and manage the behavior of matchmakers, Yujiang district is also preparing to register and manage matchmakers. At the same time, the local matchmaker Association will be established with the leaders, Party members, directors and other personnel as the president to formulate a matchmaker Convention and plan to limit the scale of betrothal gifts, matchmaker gifts, engagement and marriage ceremonies.

Wu Facai, deputy secretary of the Yujiang district Party committee, said at the training course that in recent years, wedding gifts in some villages in the district have been rising, and many families are heavily in debt; Some families become poor due to marriage and return to poverty due to marriage. " High priced betrothal gifts have not only become a stumbling block for many young people to pursue a happy marriage, but also become a stumbling block for rural families to achieve a better life.

According to the income and expenditure survey of urban and rural residents in Jiangxi Province in 2018, after deducting the influence of price factors, the actual level of per capita disposable income of rural residents in Jiangxi Province is 11744 yuan. According to the marriage cost of 300000 yuan, including betrothal gifts, it means that an ordinary rural couple can get a wife for their son for at least 10 years without eating, drinking and consuming.

The 'brake' for high priced betrothal gifts is not only in Yujiang. In August last year, the office of the comprehensive social security management committee of Guixi City (county-level city) under the jurisdiction of Yingtan City also issued the village rules and regulations on promoting changing customs, new marriage and establishing a new style of civilization. Including the guiding standard of betrothal gifts: it is best to limit it to less than 8 times the per capita disposable income of rural residents (about 100000 yuan according to the 2017 standard).

In Yuehu District, the main urban area of Yingtan City, the District Commission for Discipline Inspection, the Organization Department of the district Party committee, the Publicity Department of the district Party committee and the District Civil Affairs Bureau jointly issued a notice to start with Party members and cadres at all levels and require the signing of a letter of commitment: the betrothal gift shall not exceed 60000 yuan. For the marriage ecology of "sky high price bride price" in some areas of Yingtan, Li Yinhe, a researcher at the Institute of Sociology of the Chinese Academy of Social Sciences, pointed out that "sky high price bride price" is essentially equal to "buying and selling marriage".

Li Yinhe said that the bride price problem existed for quite a long time before the founding of new China. China's first marriage law mainly opposed arranged marriage and buying and selling marriage. Whether the betrothal gifts have this nature depends mainly on whether the marriage expenses including the betrothal gifts are spent on the two newlyweds or all to the woman's parents.

According to previous research, Li Yinhe, for example, some people in Shanghai also put forward some conditions: how much does the man want to buy large items and how much does the woman want to buy Bedding? The biggest difference from the sky high price bride price is that the money is used for the life of the 'little couple'. She also said that "due to the unbalanced gender ratio between men and women, and the influence of social customs and market laws such as' family succession ',' raising children and preventing the elderly ', it is difficult to fundamentally solve the problem of' sky high bride price 'in the short term."

According to the data of the National Bureau of statistics in 2018, from the perspective of gender structure, China has a male population of 713.51 million and a female population of 681.87 million, with 31.64 million more men than women. In Shaxi village, with a population of more than 1600, Zhang Zhihui said that there are nearly 200 marriageable young people aged 20 to 30, of which less than 50 are girls. " The ratio of male to female is 3:1 '.

Zhao Qingjie, a doctor of ethics and professor of China University of political science and law, also analyzed the media. The emergence of "sky high price bride price" is not only an economic problem, but also involves issues such as education, social security and the differentiation between the rich and the poor. Only one paper Village regulation can not solve the fundamental problem, so we need to take multiple measures: on the one hand, we need publicity and education to guide marriage to return to the essence of love, and we can't equate marriage with commodity trading, And eliminate the psychology of comparison; On the other hand, it is more necessary to develop the rural economy, improve farmers' income, eliminate the polarization between the rich and the poor, urban-rural and regional differences, and solve the imbalance between men and women.

"It is difficult to solve the current problem of 'sky high price betrothal gifts' by relying on one law or administrative regulation alone." Li Yinhe also believes that the government should tilt resources, guide and support more from social security, especially rural elderly care, and solve the worries behind, so as to get rid of the foundation of bad customs. In the long run, it should rely on economic development and the process of rural urbanization.