The boy cooks dinner and his mother prefers cooking. Math is over
4hw.com.cn: it's reasonable to say that children can cook and do housework, which makes parents very happy. However, for xiaopang's parents, they are very collapsed, because children are obsessed with cooking and know nothing about learning. What's the matter? Let's have a look.
'little warm man' became obsessed with the kitchen in the third grade, but his grades were getting worse year by year
The first time the doctor met xiaopang was in the first half of his sixth grade. Because of his poor academic performance, his parents took him for help.
"He is not interested in reading at all. When he comes back every day, he doesn't do his homework, so he makes trouble and cooks. He will take his pocket money to buy all kinds of ingredients, and then experiment according to the recipe. I admit that his cooking is now more delicious and beautiful than mine, but after all, he is a sixth grade student. He can't study cooking all day. " As soon as I entered the consulting room, my anxious mother spoke first.
"I feel sleepy when I see books. I can't understand what the teacher says. I might as well sleep." Xiaopang also showed no weakness and immediately answered to speak out his heart.
It turned out that xiaopang's family are new Hangzhou people. When their parents came to Hangzhou to work hard when they were young, they finally stood firm. In order to make their son more promising in the future, before xiaopang was in grade one, they decided to let their children go to Hangzhou to go to school no matter how hard it was. It's a pity that xiaopang's grades in learning have been mediocre since he was a child. From the third grade, he is the countdown in the class. The score of the exam is getting worse year by year.
Xiaopang's interest in cooking also began to show from the third grade. He admitted that the initial attempt was to 'please' his mother. After several attempts, he saw his parents eating happily and he was very confident, so he got out of control and became more and more obsessed with the study of cooking. After school every day, I just want to get into the kitchen and create colorful food materials. The joy and satisfaction are beyond words.
In the face of difficulties in choosing interests and grades, respecting children's interests can yield surprises
In order to improve xiaopang's performance, parents have tried their best. On the one hand, ask the teacher's attention to leave xiaopang to make up classes and do homework after school; On the other hand, listening to teachers say that children are not focused in class, they don't hesitate to send their children to tens of thousands of yuan of attention summer camp. But the result is that everyone doesn't want to see. Xiaopang's performance has never shown any signs of improvement. In the final exam of the sixth grade last semester, xiaopang only got 1 point in math. The teacher was so angry that he didn't know what to do, so he had to invite Dr. Fang to school.
When I met Dr. Fang again at the child's school, Xiao Pang's father was a little embarrassed. He took the initiative to say hello and said, 'in fact, I've put it down, but his mother can't accept it. She always feels that cooking is worthless.'
"Neither of us has a high level of education. I just hope he can change his fate by learning instead of working like us. But no matter what we say, he doesn't want to read books. He can't memorize one English word in half a day, but I remember the recipes on TV and magazines once I read them. When I come back every day and see him busy in the kitchen, I get angry. " Mother said excitedly after father's words.
In fact, at the last visit, Dr. Fang had made a comprehensive assessment for xiaopang. His IQ was lower than medium, and his attention was indeed defective, so it can be imagined that his performance was poor. At that time, she suggested that little fat parents, not every child is reading material. Instead of spending time on tutoring, they might as well make good use of the situation and let their children do what they are interested in, so as to give full play to their potential as much as possible.
This time, in front of the little fat teacher, she still said that not every child is suitable for reading, and children's growth is not only reading. Learning comes from interest. If parents and teachers force their children blindly, one day they will be tired of learning. But xiaopang has a strong interest in cooking and has a talent. As a parent, he should be happy. Therefore, we should lower the expectations of children's achievements, cultivate their interests, create opportunities for them to give full play to their strengths and stimulate their potential.
At the same time, Dr. Fang also suggested that xiaopang teacher hold a theme class meeting to give children a chance to show their personal talents. It is said that Xiao Pang's cooking surprised both his classmates and teachers. Many people were surrounded by him on the spot, and everyone's view of him has greatly changed. Now, the second half of the sixth grade is almost over. Parents and teachers say xiaopang has made great progress. He won't make trouble in class. He will listen carefully and do his homework as much as he can. People have become lively, cheerful and confident.