What are the manifestations of domestic cold violence and how to avoid domestic cold violence
4hw.com.cn: now domestic violence is not only physical violence in quarrels and fights, but also a form of spiritual violence in which many couples show indifference, contempt, laissez faire or alienation to each other when they have contradictions. So what are the manifestations of domestic cold violence? How to avoid it? Let's have a look.
Common features are:
(1) Indifference
(2) Minimize language communication
(3) Slander and sarcasm
(4) Stop or perfunctory sexual life
(5) Completely irresponsible in family affairs
Because cold violence has neither blood nor injury, it is a typical hidden violence, so it is easy for the parties to use the phrase "we are making trouble" and ignore its great harm to their body and mind.
In fact, research shows that in a troubled marriage, indifference and silence do more harm to the marriage than shouting, and are more likely to lead to the breakdown of the marriage.
That sounds strange, doesn't it? This is because although it is irrational to make a big noise, at least they are willing to communicate with each other to express their dissatisfaction. It is easier to know each other's thoughts and feelings. If you are indifferent and silent, you can not find the crux, but also often reflect the determination of being discouraged and unwilling to work hard. Therefore, the result of mutual respect is often an affair. Sorrow is greater than the death of the heart. When the heart is dead, marriage is naturally unable to survive.
In the cold atmosphere of cold domestic violence for a long time, a person is prone to emotional vulnerability, inferiority complex, paranoia and feeling lonely. Children are also easy to develop a lonely character, which greatly affects their interpersonal relationships in the future. Because the body is under strong mental pressure for a long time, it is prone to many annoying physical and mental diseases (such as stomach pain, back pain, headache and insomnia), and even more serious diseases and pain and self injury (suicide) measures.
It is worth mentioning that, compared with physical violence, cold violence mostly occurs in intellectual families. The reason is:
(1) The action of punching and kicking each other is considered by the party concerned to be inconsistent with his status of high education.
(2) Scholars are often bound by ethics, are not good at expressing their emotions in words, and do not know how to vent their dissatisfaction.
(3) With more education, they have more delicate requirements for feelings, and know that cold violence can cause more spiritual harm to each other.
(4) He knows more about self-protection in law, so he doesn't do it or talk.
Therefore, the "cold war" situation that is easy to appear during a quarrel is actually worth your attention, because an inadvertent "temporarily ignored" cold war will become a cold violence of "intentional injury".
'he treats me like air at all!'
When they got married, they actually fell in love, and everyone thought they were a good match. However, a year or two after giving birth to the child, her husband's feeling about her has turned 180 degrees. After work, I always linger in the office and seldom go home for dinner. Even when I get home, I always have a cold face, expressionless and silent.
She tried to communicate with him, but he was noncommittal, saying 'good' or 'bad' at most; She asked him why he ignored him, and his response was' what can I say? '
After many years of such a respectful life, the only topic they can talk about more is the living arrangements related to children.
'I seem to be sitting in an ice prison,' she said. 'I have to continue to endure for the sake of my children.'
It sounds like a painful story.
Experts used a very vivid term - "domestic cold violence" to express this kind of respect between husband and wife.
Warm tip: domestic violence makes the relationship between many couples cold to the freezing point. I hope couples can stay away from domestic violence and make their families more harmonious.