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How to improve children's emotional intelligence

4hw.org: most of the time, parents are concerned about their children's IQ. After a lot of research results, it has been proved that children with high EQ tend to be more successful than those with high IQ when facing life. Their EQ determines their ability to deal with the world and their ability to communicate with others. How to cultivate their children's EQ? The following summary summarizes how to improve their children's EQ Several methods of subeq.

In the past, it was generally believed that only high IQ can make children achieve excellent academic performance. The ability to communicate with others or sports skills are considered as a person's personality characteristics, which can not be included in the category of measuring intelligence.

In 1983, Howard Gardner, an American psychologist, believed that IQ could gradually increase with age. He believes that IQ is mainly manifested in the ability to solve problems, or the ability to create a product of cultural value. Gardner puts forward the concept of "multiple intelligence" and divides it into logical intelligence, linguistic intelligence, spatial intelligence, musical intelligence, physical intelligence, natural intelligence, emotional intelligence, communicative intelligence and self-examination intelligence.

Although some people think that emotional intelligence (EQ) is less important than other kinds of intelligence, we can not ignore the fact that 85% of our decisions are made by feeling.

Parents' EQ can be conveyed to their children. The tenderness and deep affection between parents is bound to have a positive impact on their children. In order to improve children's EQ, psychologists put forward the following suggestions:

First, always express your love. Physical contact and eye contact are both helpful to improve children's emotional intelligence. Love is often expressed in play, eating and talking, which can cultivate children's healthy mood.

Second, help children express their emotions. It is also important to help children understand and understand various emotional expressions. Most of the time, children are angry because they don't know how to control their emotions.

Third, teach children to make their own decisions. Independence is the most important aspect of emotional intelligence. Only when they learn to make their own ideas from childhood, can they develop an independent character.

Fourth, affirm children's emotions. Allow children to express their anger instead of telling them 'don't be angry'. In addition, asking them why they are angry is also important to help them control their emotions. Remember not to try to suppress children's emotions when they are angry.

Fifth, recognize what they have achieved. Always affirm children's intelligence and avoid belittling their actions, otherwise children will lose the ability to accept failure. Teach children to deal with and overcome negative emotions when they encounter setbacks.

Sixth, but dote. Avoid saying 'you can't do it, I'll do it for you.' in this way, it will hurt the children's self-confidence and lose their sense of security.