Do you know what the seven-year itch is? For husband and wife, the love between them is slowly disappearing, the marriage is long, and the freshness is lost. From romantic love to real marriage, we are too familiar with each other in the ordinary day and night. The shortcomings or differences in ideas of both sides in love have been fully exposed at this time. Recently, a data survey found that the seven-year itch has gradually become the five-year itch!
As a result, emotional 'exhaustion' or boredom has brought marriage into a 'bottleneck'. If we can't choose an effective way to pass this' bottleneck ', marriage will end. So now 'seven-year old' generally means that people may feel bored and bored in the seventh year of marriage due to the insipid law of marriage life, and have to go through a crisis test. This test is a turning point in the relationship. Once successful, the relationship can develop in a healthy direction; otherwise, the two may go their separate ways, break up, and eventually lead to the breakdown of the relationship. Of course, if there is a real problem in marriage, not necessarily for seven years, or long or short, it may only take one or two years, or even marriage will soon itch.
Divorce, from '7-year itch' to '5-year itch'
According to the survey results, 41% of the divorced registered members ended their marriage within one to five years after marriage, which is far higher than the "seven-year itch" that people usually think.
After divorce, more than half of the population will not actively contact with their predecessors, only when there is something to communicate. So what are the reasons for marriage failure?
Divorced men believe that the main reasons for the end of the last marriage are the fading of feelings, the incompatibility of living habits and long-term quarrels. Divorced women believe that the lack of sense of responsibility, infidelity and bad living habits are the main reasons for the end of marriage. Among the respondents, 18% of women said they had divorced because of domestic violence, including physical violence and 'cold violence' attitude.
In terms of age, the proportion of 'post-90s' divorcees choosing' lack of sense of responsibility 'and' lack of consideration for flash marriage 'is the highest among all age groups; the proportion of' post-85 'divorcees and' post-75 'divorcees choosing' lack of communication with their predecessors' is the highest.
Among those who actively strive for child custody right after divorce, 70% of women choose to actively ask for child custody right, while only half of men will ask for such right.