Men often complain that women are not right and love to say ironic things, but they hope that the other party will automatically guess their mind. Only in this way can they understand, care about and love them. Women also often complain that men are not right and only love her. Parents always say in front of their children not to spend filial piety, it is enough to have a heart. When their children really do nothing, they complain about this and that, and feel very pitiful.
It's very common that one's words are not right in love and between relatives. On the surface, there is one set, but the actual expectation is another. In fact, everyone hopes that others can read their own heart. They are shy to express themselves and reveal their own requirements. We all want to show that we are not greedy, do not care, and hide our hidden desires. Isn't it hard to get along with close people in this way?
But we still prefer to say it wrong, because it is more difficult to say it straight than to lie. Everyone is afraid of being seen through and wants to protect himself. There are three forms of misinformation
First, for self-protection, they don't want to disclose their own ideas, and they are afraid that others will see through their own desires. Second, in order to take care of the other party, they don't speak the truth out of kindness and fear that the other party will worry about themselves. Originally, it may be out of good intentions, but it often turns into hindering frank communication and creating greater and unnecessary misunderstandings. This kind of form mostly occurs between loving mothers or lovers. The third is to be considerate. On the surface, they are ironic. They are friendly and kind, even considerate, and show generosity. But on the inside, the subtext is obviously on the contrary, they are calculating, or they have a negative judgment on other people. Mingming is not happy, but says don't worry about nothing. Mingming wants to be flattered, but says it doesn't matter.
However, because of being generous and generous, I feel even worse and resentful. I feel that I am a victim and that I am not well rewarded for being a good person, so I am not valued. This kind of hypocrisy is easy to accumulate resentment, self-control grievance, self pity, secretly sigh the bitterness of life, forming narrow-minded. It is difficult to get along with, confusing people, and extremely stressful.
It's easy to be seen through by those who are in a mood, and they will self expose their ugliness. Don't underestimate the destructiveness to mental health caused by wrong words. It suppresses people's real thoughts, desires and wishes. Because they can not release themselves, resulting in psychological depression, long depression into disease, accumulated into resentment, jealousy, anger, depression or other negative emotions. When they are exposed or can not be suppressed, and their emotions rebound, they are more likely to become angry, out of control, burst out, hysterical, and hurt themselves.
Expressing oneself is an important part of psychological balance. People who can express themselves sincerely and freely are open-minded, less depressed and approachable. Honesty is the most free and comfortable way of expression. Don't let heart disease make you hypocritical and annoying.