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Why do you keep your predecessor's things when you break up?

It's normal to fall in love and break up now, but do you still keep the things left by your predecessor? Should such things be removed? Let's take a look with Xiaobian~

A few days ago, Wang Xiao, 27, quarreled with her boyfriend Zhang Xiang again. It's still an old problem -- the objects of Zhang Xiang's ex girlfriend in that room always make Wang Xiao look uncomfortable and want her boyfriend to throw away their loyalty. However, in her boyfriend's opinion, it's still an affectation. After several quarrels, even Wang Xiao was shaken by his feelings.

My ex's house is full of people

At noon yesterday, at Wang Xiao's home in Shipingqiao Junyi new world, the reporter met Wang Xiao. When she opened the door, her eyes were still red. She said that she had just finished quarreling with Zhang Xiang. Wang Xiao and Zhang Xiang got to know each other through a friend's introduction. They have been together for nearly half a year. At the beginning of March, Wang Xiao visited Zhang Xiang's home for the first time, but because of the plush toys in Zhang Xiang's bedroom, he felt that his feelings had changed.

'when I asked, I knew it was his ex girlfriend's. Although Wang Xiao didn't say anything on the surface, he was still very unhappy.

The longer he spent together, Wang Xiao found that it was not only fluffy toys, but also many things of his ex girlfriend, such as hairpins, clothes and cosmetics. Every time Wang Xiao asks about it, Zhang Xiang always tells her that when he quarreled with his predecessor and broke up, because he broke up unhappily, his predecessor left without taking a lot of things, so these things naturally stayed here.

Her boyfriend scolded her for her affectation instead of throwing it

Zhang Xiang make complaints about Wang Xiao make complaints about her. She bestie with her girlfriends and Tucao, but the more Wang Xiao Tucao makes Wang Xiao feel that Zhang Xiang has something left behind. Zhou Li, Wang Xiao's best friend, told reporters that she also felt that Zhang Xiang had gone too far in doing so: since she broke up so unhappily, why didn't she throw away her predecessor's things? Wang Xiao said that she had quarreled with Zhang Xiang many times for this, but Zhang Xiang always scolded her for being hypocritical.

Recently, Wang Xiao even found that Zhang Xiang's QQ is still in the state of binding lovers' space with his ex girlfriend. At that time, she was infuriated, holding a mobile phone so that her boyfriend must remove the state of lovers space. Unexpectedly, Zhang Xiang got angry and said that Wang Xiao had nothing to look for. The two people had a quarrel and are still in the cold war.

Yesterday afternoon, the reporter contacted Zhang Xiang, 27, who is engaged in sales. He told the reporter, "if it wasn't for her, I would have forgotten about it. 'the couple space that Zhang Xiang bound with his predecessor was in 2010. After the popularity of wechat, QQ used very little except office. Zhang Xiang also said: "my ex is about to get married, and I haven't contacted her for several years. I'm too lazy to clean up the old things at home. How can it be a sign of lingering love in her eyes? It's really annoying to keep arguing about it. '

Showing attitude is respect for the incumbent

Zhou Xiaoyan, a psychology professor at Chongqing Normal University, believes that Wang Xiao is not mature enough in dealing with it. I believe you know better than anyone whether the man really treats you. If he is still in love with his predecessor, let it go. If it's really just that I didn't have time to deal with my predecessor's things, then why be angry about small things.

From Zhang Xiang's unwillingness to throw away his predecessor's things, there may be nostalgia in addition to being lazy to clean up. But whether it's nostalgic or nostalgic, since the incumbent is bothering, it's also a basic respect for the incumbent to show that he doesn't tangle with the past.