Recently, it has been frequently reported on the Internet that there are some such people in public places, holding and kissing together, regardless of the eyes and feelings of so many people. This kind of thing has also aroused heated discussion among netizens. Today, Xiaobian has sorted out the psychology of these people who show their love, the most scientific explanation~
"Intimacy in public places" (or "public display of affection") refers to the relatively mild physical intimacy, such as holding hands, hugging, kissing and caressing. In most cultures of the world, these forms of intimacy are beyond reproach, but in other regional cultures, people are very disgusted with this kind of intimacy in public places, and even use the law to explicitly prohibit it.
Why do people in public places like PDA?
Intimacy in public has little to do with passion. On the contrary, this kind of behavior is mostly the externalization of psychological motivation, that is, to show the public the possession of an emotion. Similar to the behavior of wearing expensive jewelry, it is to show off that it has a sexual partner. So some people with long-term relationships may never understand why some people are so keen on public display.
Excessive frequent intimacy in public places, in fact, is the parties seeking sexual partner recognition, seeking social recognition. The society thinks that this kind of behavior is immoral, but the parties can get the pleasure of treason by provoking the custom. In western countries, some young people who like to make love in public places classify themselves as vulnerable people like abortion and homosexuals.
What factors will affect the behavior of show love?
In the state of love, without too much interference from the outside world and the healthy feelings of both sides, it is very natural to convey love to each other in public. Because when people get happiness in a relationship, they will unconsciously want to show it. After all, it's unnatural to hold it. And in theory, there shouldn't be too much difference between the behavior of couples in public and in private.
Then the factors that may hinder the process of show kindness and love are as follows:
1. The one in love is not satisfied with the relationship, hoping to disguise himself as single in front of more people to get more potential love opportunities
2. The one in love doesn't want to get too much attention from the public; this kind of mentality is more common in the environment, especially significant;
3. Both parties in love know the hardship of being single and try not to stimulate them for the sake of others_ T: very touching spirit)
4. Both lovers know the terrible end of showing their love in some public places (such as the stake of fire), so they keep a low profile very coordinately;
5. Because one of the lovers grew up in a relatively conservative environment, he felt that 'showing love in public' itself was a very 'unruly' thing, so he would not do it in public.
The factors that may promote this process are as follows:
1. Because one of the lovers feels very happy and satisfied, they unconsciously show their love in public;
2. Because of thick skin, the one in love doesn't realize the difference between public and private, and doesn't notice the difference of the people around him, so his behavior is more casual;
3. One of the lovers is surrounded by tough bachelors, and in that state 'love relationship' is what most bachelors yearn for, so this relationship becomes the capital for this person to show off in front of some people;
4. One of the lovers is eager to get attention, so they often make some big moves to attract attention;
5. In love, one party is not confident in the other party's feelings, and (subconsciously) hopes to declare his ownership by the act of 'show love', so as to prevent the other half from some situations and gain satisfaction from it.
So, it's the distribution of these factors in two people that determines the degree of showing kindness. As for whether the behavior of 'show love' is good for emotional cultivation or not, it is not difficult to see from the above factors that show love is likely to happen when the love relationship is very happy or there are problems, and the final impact also depends on how the environment responds and how the two get along with each other.
It's worth mentioning that it's better for both parties to fully understand each other's views on this issue through full communication, and try to unify their behaviors tacitly, otherwise it's easy to bring crisis to their feelings due to some kind of imbalance. Pay attention to the scale of showing love in public
In recent news, it is not uncommon for couples to have excessive intimate behavior in public places. Every time a couple's intimate photos are exposed, netizens will have a heated discussion. Some people think that they should do what they want to do in what kind of occasions, and that they should not do private acts in public places, which is the basic respect for others and society; some people think that it is normal for young people to have seven emotions and six desires; others think that it is not good for children to see the influence of showing love in public places. What do you think?
It's annoying, it's difficult to show love
@@Little bird: in my eyes' show love 'behavior is not appropriate in public, and it is annoying.
@@Simple happiness: seeing such behavior, I will express speechless and disdain. After all, it's a public place, not their home. Can you take care of their image!
@@Spring: never show love in public. Because it's embarrassing, and everyone can accept it differently & hellip; & hellip; you just know it's the one you love.
@@Wing: if you are too intimate, you should pay attention to the occasion. Don't show it to everyone.
@@Yu Yu: it's really disgusting for lovers to show their love excessively in public places. It's not my jealousy or prejudice. It really hurts my eyes.
@@Sophomore: I would like to ask those who show their love in public, have they considered the feelings of children?
No objection, but the hope is to start with emotion and stop with courtesy
@@Clumsy: since ancient times, love has always been a beautiful thing like a poem. Proper love behavior, taking care of the feelings of the public, is worthy of encouragement and praise.
@@Daguanguang: for example, as long as we don't kiss each other for too long, I think it's acceptable. My girlfriend and I sometimes kiss each other, just touch a lip or a forehead, less than half a second. Otherwise, it's really strange for two people to say goodbye.
@@Wordless: in fact, we need to understand the definition of show love. It's like holding hands and tying shoelaces. I think it's OK. But if the scale is large, it will corrupt the social atmosphere.
@@Jacky: it's just hugging and kissing. I don't think it's obscene or pornographic. I think it's acceptable.
@@Twins: as long as it doesn't affect others, as long as it doesn't go too far, it's personal freedom. On the contrary, those who secretly take photos infringe on other people's portrait rights.
@@Glutinous rice balls and Coprinus comatus: it's not impossible to show love in public, but we should pay attention to the scale. That kind of indecent intimate behavior will be rejected by the onlookers.
@@Mu Yanyu: it's better to have a good education than to try to stop it. Suppose a mother takes her child to the street and meets a man and a woman kissing, and the mother takes her child away with disgust on her face. The child will think that this is bad behavior, and even later he thinks that it is bad in private. But if the mother told the child that they were very loving and happy, the child would also be affected.