According to the comparison of the ages of the two parties, monogamous marriage at present mainly has seven forms: same age love, brother-in-law love, sister-in-law love, father daughter love, mother son love, grandson love and milk grandson love. The same age love and brother sister love are the main forms of marriage at present. Of course, the same age love means that the age difference between the two sides is less than 2 years old; while the marriage of brother sister love and sister brother love means that the age difference between the two sides is less than 15 years old; while the father daughter love and mother son love should mean that the age difference between the two sides is between 15 and 35 years old; Yesun love and naisun love naturally mean that the age gap between the two sides is more than 35 years old. Of course, this kind of division is not absolute, it's just a kind of approximate.
So, among the seven marriage forms, which one is the most stable? At present, all kinds of marriage forms have both advantages and disadvantages, and there are many unstable factors. Although the marriage forms of peer love and brother-sister love are the most common and the absolute number is the most stable, the divorce rate is higher year by year. This is the reality, and of course, it mainly occurs in China Among the two marriage forms of peer love and brother sister love, this is also a continuation of male chauvinism. With the increasing equality of rights and interests between men and women, this form of marriage is more and more seriously challenged. Of course, in any case, it will also be one of the main forms of marriage in the future. After all, whether male chauvinism or sovereign chauvinism prevails, this is not the case The two forms of marriage are not excessive. They are always relatively equal and acceptable for men and women.
The marriage of father daughter love and mother son love is the most fundamental symbol of male chauvinism or feminism, and it is also the most concerned form of successful men and women. The stability of these two kinds of marriage has not been optimistic. After all, the age gap is too big, and the purpose of marriage is relatively clear. That is, on the one hand, the older one is often the economic one According to the absolute advantage, marriage changes fate mainly in the two marriage forms of father daughter love and mother son love. However, it is difficult to achieve harmony between these two marriage forms, and it seems that there is always a question mark about how far a marriage with disharmony will go. Of course, father daughter love and mother son love also have happiness, but the probability of happiness is absolutely less than 50%. Many marriages are actually nominal but not real, and they are only maintained painstakingly based on economic factors, especially those with children Father daughter love and mother son love, but father daughter love and mother son love without common children can only be wishful thinking if they want to be happy or maintain it. Moreover, from the perspective of age, it is also a small probability for them to finish their life together. The younger party often has loneliness and loneliness waiting for him (her) at the end of life.
And yesun love and naisun love bring the male chauvinism and feminism into full play. The purpose of marriage is stronger. If they come together based on feelings, they may not even believe it. However, this kind of marriage seems to be relatively stable. After all, it is a kind of short-term investment for both parties. There is no concern about their children, and it is almost impossible to finish their lives together. It is entirely based on economic or political foundation. The most painful thing about this kind of marriage is that short-term investment has become long-term investment, which is unbearable for the young party. For example, why Deng Wendi wants to divorce is because she seems to have no hope. Moreover, historically, the emperor is the most powerful man, but the emperor's women have affairs everywhere. It can be seen that although the marriage of yesun love and naisun love is likely to be stable, to be happy is probably to take off their pants and fart. After all, this kind of marriage is also too inhumane, but in a country with political centralization and a society with high concentration of wealth, this kind of marriage is very popular The form of composition seems to be quite common, and it will still exist in the future of mankind.
Therefore, among the seven forms of marriage, the most stable and happiest should be sister brother love. Especially with the increasing development of science and technology and the increasing improvement of women's status, sister brother love will eventually become the most important form of marriage in the future, because this form of marriage is the most humane, most reasonable and most in line with the laws of nature. Why do you say that? Ding Ding has six reasons
First, it is in line with the law of nature that we can live together for a lifetime. In the animal kingdom, it is a basic common sense that female animals live longer than male animals. Even in human beings, it is a basic rule that the average life expectancy of female animals is higher than that of male animals. Therefore, based on this point, it seems more appropriate for a couple to live together for life.
Second, in terms of physiological structure, the marriage of sister brother relationship is more in line with the rhythm. Marriage stability and happiness are mainly based on three factors: economy, health and sex. In terms of physiological structure, the most vigorous stage of men's sex is from adulthood to about 30 years old. After 35 years old, the decline is increasingly obvious. However, there is almost no weak period in women's sex, and the most vigorous stage is mainly between 30 and 45 years old. With the increasing development of science and technology, and the increasing extension of human life, the period of women's sexual exuberance is also extending Structurally speaking, sibling love is more rhythmic in terms of sex.
Third, it is in line with the characteristics of men's different maintenance. Nowadays, men are far inferior to women in terms of maintenance. Men's biggest hobbies, such as smoking, drinking and staying up late, are a kind of damage to their body and appearance. Nowadays, women pay great attention to maintenance, and their appearance maintenance is increasingly delayed. Especially women generally don't like smoking and drinking, so their appearance is more likely to stay long Let's see why beautiful women always marry ugly men. In fact, it's because nowadays men are more likely to age under the influence of smoking, drinking, staying up late and so on. Therefore, more and more sister brother relationships can't see how big the age gap is.
Fourth, it is in line with the characteristics of male character degradation. With the development of science and technology, men are engaged in less and less physical work, and both men and women are engaged in the same work. Therefore, men and women's personalities are becoming more and more similar, which is the fundamental reason why men's personalities are feminized and women's personalities are masculine. Therefore, there is a phenomenon that men are more delicate than women, and they are more vulnerable than women. As a sister, they are able to bear the burden So, in this respect, sister brother love is more suitable for the characteristics of more and more men's personality degradation.
Fifthly, the elder sister in the love between sister and brother generally has enough economic strength to let men play down the pressure. Now, men are still the backbone of the family, so men have a lot of pressure, which is the fundamental reason why men value career more than life. However, in the love between sister and brother, as the elder sister's economic strength is generally relatively large, at least do not need to rely on men to live, both sides of the family can support the family, so that men's pressure will be reduced a lot. Men who are less stressed will have more energy to take care of their emotions and enrich their feelings. In this way, couples will have more time to run small families. Therefore, from an economic point of view, sibling love is happier and more stable because of the relatively strong economic foundation.
Sixth, the possibility of infidelity in sister brother marriage is much smaller than that in other marriage forms. The biggest crisis in marriage comes from the infidelity of one or both parties. The most traditional marriage forms, such as peer love and brother sister love, are relatively willful. In a word, it is possible that the two parties will break up as soon as they clap. Other forms of marriage, such as father daughter love, mother son love, especially yesun love and naisun love, do not conform to the most basic natural laws. It is almost impossible for marriage to keep chastity with each other. However, in the marriage of sister and brother, the elder sister has more experiences and is more inclusive. Therefore, the elder sister is less likely to cheat. Now, it mainly depends on the younger man. However, due to the harmonious sexual relationship between sister and brother, the woman has enough ability to make the man inseparable from her, and the woman's economic strength is relatively strong, which makes the man out of love The track has to bear too much loss, so even the younger man doesn't have much courage to cheat. Marriage without cheating will be more stable and happy. This is also the phenomenon of unhappiness, infidelity and divorce in today's sister brother marriage. Even if there are contradictions, they seem to be able to resolve quickly.
In fact, it makes more sense for a man to take care of his younger sister. Even if a man doesn't know how to deal with his elder sister, he will not know how to deal with his younger sister's love Bad habits. Even now that male chauvinism still prevails, let's take a look at the brother-in-law couples around us. They really have much better feelings than those of the same age and brother-in-law couples. Their families seem to be happier and more stable, at least in terms of divorce.
With the increasing equality between men and women, Ding Ding believes that more and more women are able to stand on their own, especially those rising women. Their consideration of marriage will be more and more focused on sister-in-law love. Moreover, more and more men are willing to marry their elder sister, because as the three major factors of marital stability, economy, sex and health, sister-in-law love has more advantages in economy and sex at least. As for health, that's better What's more, harmonious, happy and stable couples are more confident in their health. Therefore, although the future marriage forms will focus on these seven forms, the marriage form of sister brother relationship will become more and more mainstream and the most stable form of marriage organization. In fact, the ancients have long understood that sister brother relationship is the most stable form of marriage organization.