Then why are leftover men reluctant to marry leftover women?
For men, when they are 25, they want to find girls under 25. When they are 30, they still want to find girls under 25. When they are 35, they also want to find girls under 25. In fact, one of the biggest reasons for the disaster is that there are too few men who can get married now. We all blame women for wanting a house. In fact, this is not too much. Is it necessary for a woman to have a baby for a man in a rental house? Even if the girl is willing, can the men bear it? To say the least, the current house price is outrageous. On the basis of certain feelings between the two sides, it is not necessary to have a house to get married. But the old saying is good: marry the Han, dress and eat. There can be no house, but they must have a stable income to support their family. But how many men can meet this requirement now? Here are 10 reasons to watch it!
In their complaints, the majority of leftover women should also reflect on their own problems. Why are the conditions so good, but there is no good man willing to marry? The netizens who have been dating for many times have explained the reasons.
1. There are two standard lines for a man's blind date to a woman's appearance.
Everyone likes beautiful women. In fact, men have an acceptance line, which is generally based on their own appearance. If a woman's appearance is so much worse than her own, it's hard to accept. Generally, there will be no connection, even if the other conditions of the woman are good, unless there is another marriage. Many mm are confused about why they are not hot or cold after dating. In fact, it's very simple. You are between two standard lines, and they don't have much interest in chasing you, but they think you can accept it again. In fact, the people who can be forced to meet each other are already in urgent need of marriage age. "Chicken ribs" is the mentality of many relatives. Generally, beautiful women will get a more enthusiastic pursuit, unless they are seriously inconsistent with pass in other aspects.
2. Consistency of consumption habits is more important than that of income.
In fact, many conflicts between male and female friends are caused by inconsistent consumption habits. There is a misunderstanding that the matching of economic conditions between men and women depends on income level. In fact, the key to the problem is consumption level. How much money to make is a matter of ability and how much money to spend is a matter of habit. The formation of habits is often related to family and personal experience. Even with the same background, men and women are different. Because of the different consumption habits of family background, men often feel that women are extravagant, while women can't understand men's stinginess.
3. Men have different requirements for dating and marriage partners.
I often see people complain that their boyfriend has been in love with him for many years, and they falter when they say they are married. In fact, men have different requirements for their partners. Love pays more attention to the outside, while marriage pays more attention to the reality, excluding face marriage and political marriage. The happiness of married life is a man's consideration. If there is a difference between two people's positioning of family roles, the object of love may not become the object of marriage. From this point of view, men are also very picky.
4. Family may not be important in love, but it's too important for marriage.
The families of both sides are a barrier that can not be bypassed in marriage. Generally speaking, if the female family is the bottom residents of the city, it is easy to have conflicts. If the male family is exactly the same background, the probability of intensification of the conflicts is very high. It's not a big relationship with age. When you are in love, you should pay attention to the outside. When you are talking about marriage, you need to think more about the inside. This is often the time when conflicts arise.
5. The marriage we make do with is often untested.
There are many kinds of marriage, political, economic, face, age are often reasons to settle. This kind of love or marriage may look good when it's safe. But in the face of conflict of interest, it shows its fragile side. Love a person can tolerate a lot, but will not have so many concessions, people are selfish, when two people love, more like a whole. When we make do with it, we just trade or make use of each other. Once personal interests are touched, conflicts can easily break out. Old age, personal values have been formed, will not simply for the feelings of together. However, these conditions based relationships are more likely to have conflicts and conflicts of interest, which eventually lead to breakup.
6. Left over women dating hold is too tight to warm up.
After the blind date, I don't hate it. I start to communicate normally. I met several times, contacted by phone and SMS, and ended up with nothing. This situation seems to see a lot of MM complained, I'm afraid from the meeting to break up, both hands have not pulled once. Unless the woman is a big beauty or two people talk very opportunely, men and women will feel very happy as long as they chat together. Even if it's a big beauty, it's just that the cold period can be postponed for a while. In general, dating several times, fresh feeling, men are easy to cool down or routine. Dating can't even compare with sports games, TV programs, friends drinking karaoke and so on. If you don't feel happy or belong when you are dating, your passion for dating will naturally decline. In the end, it's over.
7. Dating becomes the man's financial burden.
Although there is also an AA system, which pays by rotation, in most cases, it is a tradition for men to pay for a blind date or a date. Thus, great careers such as marriage support, meal support and wine support are born. The mistake women often make is to choose the place of consumption based on men's income or their own consumption level. As mentioned earlier, how much money you make is a matter of ability, and how much money you spend is a matter of habit. When the cost of consumption greatly exceeds the burden of the man's consumption habit, the man will naturally reduce the frequency of dating. Because men pay double bills, and the per capita consumption of 300 yuan is 600 yuan for men. Two or three times a week is not a light burden. But once a week, the emotional development is not as fast as two or three.
8. It will take more effort and two people's efforts.
At a certain age, it's very difficult to fall in love at first sight. With a lot of social experience, the vision is naturally different, and more dissatisfied with the date. If there is a marriage plan, then we should not be lazy to deal with the current one, and then look forward to the next date, because the general rule is that each date is not as good as one, very simple, the older the age, the fewer excellent missed fish. Baby, it's not that there's no, it's just that the probability is getting smaller and smaller. If you have a marriage plan, you should work hard with the people you can accept to manage your relationship, find common interests and keep more connections. If two people's personalities are suitable, more contacts will make some estrangements such as appearance and economic conditions weaken. In fact, many so-called requirements are not so necessary.
9. The definition of excellence is different.
For a high-income white-collar worker with ordinary appearance, what's the appearance of a suitable husband? According to the above, of course, the consumption habits are consistent with her, so that the man or the family is in good condition, or the income is far higher than the woman. However, for a man with a high income or a good family, is the income and ability of the woman important? Economics has the law of diminishing marginal benefits, and for such a man, he has enough economic satisfaction. A woman's income of 1000 or 10000 is a small supplement to the family income, and there is no essential difference. Similarly, women are the most common clerks or middle managers, and they are not important to men's career. On the contrary, women's work consumes too much energy, and they have a natural disadvantage in taking care of family and men. Women's habit of following the unit in the family is too strong, which is even more unacceptable for men who are also strong in the society. What the two strong bring is family conflict. It's ironic but realistic that the advantages in society are considered as disadvantages in marriage.
10. Economic condition is a contradictory proposition.
In addition to some more traditional or indeed aristocratic or powerful families, the economic problem of the blind date of ordinary people is a contradictory proposition. Traditionally, it is believed that the two economies should be basically matched, and women's good economic conditions are one of the advantages. In fact, the better women's economic conditions are, the less choice they have. The better the men's economic conditions are, the lower the requirements for women's economic conditions are. A girl with good appearance and average economic income is in an absolute disadvantage compared with a girl with average economic income and average appearance. These two aspects cannot offset each other.