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25-year-old girl sends 100000 red envelopes in half a year just to buy happiness!

Ms. Huang, 25, of Hangzhou, sent a 100000 yuan wechat red envelope in just half a year. She said it was' to gather popularity in the circle of friends', while the doctor of psychology of Hangzhou Seventh People's hospital was outspoken, which was a manifestation of obvious anxiety.

Young people who use multiple social platforms are more likely to be depressed or anxious than less users, according to a new US study.

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25-year-old girl spent money to buy happy half a year and sent 100000 red envelopes

Miss Huang is 25 years old. She has been engaged for more than a year since she graduated from university. She has a large company in her own family and her husband's family. She is a rich second generation. Because she is the youngest child in the family, both of them dote on her. They have almost no requirements for her. They only hope that she can get married with her fiance as soon as possible.

But Xiaohuang has her own idea. She plans to start a company by herself, but her family thinks it's not necessary to be unrealistic. Therefore, Xiaohuang began to shift the focus of his social circle to the Internet, especially wechat, adding hundreds of groups. At first, she was in the state of diving in the group. Occasionally, she would take a bubble and say a word. Slowly, she found that no one paid attention to her.

So, she thought of a way -- hair red bag. Sure enough, after several times of red envelopes, people in the group interacted with her more, and they also made friends with her. They often praised and commented in her circle of friends, and talked with her about setting up a company, saying that they would work together as long as she moved.

But what she couldn't think of was that she would sink deeper and deeper into the issue of sending red envelopes. At the beginning, the monthly cost in this area was about 5000 yuan, and then it increased a little bit. The maximum one month was 30000 yuan. In just half a year, I sent a 100000 yuan wechat red packet.

In her own words, she has been 'poisoned' deeply. If she doesn't send red envelopes for a few days, her popularity in the group will decline, which will make her feel very uncomfortable. In fact, she also knows that it's not good for her to do so, but if she can't control herself, she should spend money to buy those few minutes of happiness.

The busier you are on social platforms, the more likely you are to cause depression

Researchers from the University of Pittsburgh School of medicine in the United States have conducted a questionnaire survey on 1787 Americans aged 19-32 since 2014 to study their usage habits and influence on the 11 most popular social media at present, such as Facebook and twitter. The results showed that after balancing the influence factors of race, gender, marriage and love, people who used 7-11 social platforms were 3.1 times more likely to have depressive symptoms than those who used only less than 2 platforms.

Psychological doctors in China have long been concerned about this problem in clinical practice.

Dr. Tan Zhonglin, director of the emotional disorders ward of Hangzhou seventh hospital, told Qianjiang Evening News: 'the Internet has changed our lives and is affecting our emotions. I started to consciously understand the use of social platforms of outpatients a year ago, and found that many people spend more than 2 hours on social platforms every day, especially in patients with anxiety or depression, 4 out of 10 people have this problem, and their performance is often exaggerated to the extent that it is difficult for the surrounding people to understand. '

How to deal with dependence

Social platform is a kind of tool originally. Our original intention is to keep in touch with relatives and friends, learn more information from the outside world, and make ourselves not isolated. But we have to pay attention to the fact that more and more people are enslaved by social platforms, led by social platforms to post, comment and praise, so as to maintain their life activities. Unconsciously, they don't know how to get along well with people.

It can be seen that the negative impact of excessive dependence on social platforms on emotions is rapidly expanding.

For young people who have such problems, Dr. Tan Zhonglin gives three suggestions:

First, we should be aware of our own problems and monitor the time when we use the social platform. It's better to ask family members to help us supervise. In fact, it only takes a few minutes to dozens of minutes for a person to spend a day on the social platform;

Second, reduce the number of social platforms used;

Third, arrange more activities to communicate with the surrounding people. Of course, if necessary, you can also ask a qualified psychiatrist for help.