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New year's first visit to girlfriend's house

My girlfriend is willing to take you home, just hope that one day you can join the family. To let you see her parents is to hope that one day they will become your parents. So boys, please take advantage of this rare opportunity.

(1) gifts

The first time I went to my father-in-law's house, I couldn't help taking gifts. Man? It's rare to have a few 'big bleeding' in one's life. We must spend some money this time Whether the father-in-law likes drinking or not, it is necessary to take two bottles of good wine. Maotai, two bottles of Wuliangye. In fact, two bottles of good dry red is no problem. But whether your father-in-law smokes or not, even if it's Chinese cigarettes, it's better not to take them. Know that even if your father-in-law likes it, your mother-in-law will not like it. Remember this. (in fact, most of the time, as long as the son-in-law that my mother-in-law likes, it's almost the same. )Of course, good tea can be brought Besides, it's more intimate to bring something they like and need. Naturally, there are many bonus points (this can ask your GF). Tonics are free. They are not very useful and don't have time to take them. The main shelf life is too short. Remember to take at least three things, but don't take four. As the old saying goes, 'there's not enough, fruits come and gather' Note: my mother loves to embroider cross stitch, so her cervical vertebra is not very good. My boyfriend brought her a multi-functional foot bath when he went, and the old lady was full of spring light. In fact, the multi-functional soymilk machine is also good. Beans are the treasure that women can't live without. Don't worry. If it's too heavy, she can take it to your grandma and explain that it's from you. How nice it is!

(two) wearing

In short, casual wear is the best, not too personalized. If you are used to wearing T-shirts, wear leather shoes, clean and tidy. Pay special attention to the soles of your shoes, or clean them before you go. Don't step on a room of plum blossom. It's more important than face problems. Pay attention to the details.

(three) time

It's best to visit them at 90 o'clock on the weekend morning so that they don't have to get up early for your arrival. You can also clean up your room, prepare fruits, vegetables and wait for you to come.

(four) appellation

The opening line is very important. Is it 'disease from the mouth, disaster from the mouth'. It's best to call them aunts and uncles. Aunts and uncles are too polite Another note: if your girlfriend has a dog, you should go twice more when your parents in law are away. Let the dog know and like you, is also the magic weapon to win. Otherwise, you will suffer. The barking of a barking dog will always affect your communication with your family, and your impression will be greatly reduced. When my boyfriend sneaked into my house for the first time, he painted the adidas' men's sports perfume. So he had to paint it every time he went.

5. Stop talking

Don't wander around when you enter the house. Just be honest on the sofa. Don't sit too tight, but don't lean your back on the sofa. After all, it's not your home. Remember to communicate with the father-in-law more. If he is on the TV, you should also try not to pay too much attention to the specific content on the TV, in case he suddenly throws a question to you. Before you have time to respond, you will naturally be illogical and may stutter a little. Use "we" in your speech. It's kind and warm. After lunch, father-in-law's words may be significantly reduced. In order to prevent embarrassment, you can find the most familiar content of current politics or professional counterparts to cut into the topic, but you need to ensure that the elderly like and care about these, and you will have a very speculative conversation Otherwise, you will be able to talk a lot, and the old man will become a real audience. Why not put the cart before the horse? Even if you are nagging, you should know that your purpose is not to make him feel that you have cultural insight, but to make him happy and amuse him. If he likes it, you'll be all right Note: don't tell cold jokes, let alone yellow jokes. You can't say anything uncivilized, or you will be sentenced to death.

6 (six) meals

In general, the wife prefers to entertain the 'son-in-law' at home for the first time, especially when your mother-in-law can make a good dish. But the biggest disadvantage of cooking at home is that it takes a long time. It's possible that for quite a long time, mother-in-law is busy living in the kitchen, which requires you to have a little eyesight. Go to the kitchen more, chat with aunt, ask for help, and let her distract her, then she won't feel tired.

If you don't know how to cook, don't be too busy with your cooking. Don't be afraid if you can't cook. She won't ask you for help. Remember to help clean the table and sweep the floor after dinner. (but if she asks you if you can cook at this time, don't be too honest, just say that you can make tomatoes, scrambled eggs or anything, or you can learn to cook. In a word, she won't let you do it, but she hopes you can do it psychologically. After all, no one wants her daughter to suffer with you. )Don't forget to praise Auntie's skill while eating.

If she makes eight kinds of dishes, you'd better eat every one. You should tell her with your actions that 'everything is delicious as long as it's made by your aunt'. But if you don't know how to eat a certain seafood or food properly, you should pay attention to observe your GF behavior. (I don't know if my boyfriend paid attention to it. I practiced the eating method of all the dishes as fast as I could at the beginning of the meal. )You'd better dig a little bit of pine kernel corn with a spoon and put it in your plate before eating. You can use chopsticks to clip beer chicken wings into your bowl, and then eat them with both ends in your hands. If you use chopsticks, it's even worse if you can't clamp them properly. I remember the steamed bread rolls. If you can't eat one, don't hold on to it. Who do you want to leave the rest?!

However, if your girlfriend is smart enough to love you, even if she doesn't like pasta, she will help you share that half. It won't put you in a dilemma. Don't let GF and her parents throw food to dogs, but you can't. And the dog often likes to cheat, it will jump you, let you give it delicious The taboos on the table are also important. Take a look at your GF eyes.

(generally speaking, GF can't tell you all the likes and dislikes of her parents in detail, and the conversation can't be foreseen. However, MM people should pay attention to that once his words are not suitable or sensitive, you should help him to circle the past quickly and turn to the next topic that your parents must like as soon as possible. )

7 (seven) farewell

It's better to have a chat for 1-2 hours after dinner, and then you should take the initiative to sign off. When chatting, ask your parents-in-law for more advice. If you let them answer questions for you, they will not only feel that you are learning and modest. It also satisfies their psychology of being a good teacher. You should know that your GF doesn't listen to them at home. So they don't get sleepy. Kill two birds with one stone.

About 2-3 p.m., you should leave. You need to know that after 4 o'clock, you will arrive at the so-called dinner point. This is a big taboo Before you go out, your parents in law will tell you 'don't buy anything next time'. Don't take it seriously. Isn't it strange that many people are polite. Remember to say goodbye to them politely and signal 'you will visit them often'. This will not only lay the groundwork for your next visit, but also make them feel more caring and warm for you.