With the awakening of women's self-consciousness, women no longer make do with the humiliation of their unfaithful husband, so they choose to divorce. However, for women, second marriage is a shuffle of life. Some people are happy and some people cry bitterly. The bitterness and bitterness of second marriage are in their hearts. So, how many secrets and privacy did the second married women hide?
1、 When choosing a mate, there is no confidence to lower the standard of choosing a man.
When young, women believe in love, confident, willing to love and desperate to go. When remarried, only to see the real face of a man, the cruel reality of his life is full of doubt and disappointment, no fighting spirit, no confidence, and even feel inferior to others, do not deserve to have the qualification of happiness, so in the second marriage in order to get married, reduce their mate selection standard. Women do not know, from the beginning you do not see the man, will not be able to make do with life.
2、 When in love, I doubt a man's character and dare not marry.
Fall in love again, for the process of emotional development has been familiar, no mystery, no enthusiasm, and even the man's character began to doubt. Many women are deeply affected by the shadow of divorce. They can't get out of the haze for a while. During the period of falling in love, they will constantly question each other's character and fear marriage. Willing to fall in love with each other, but afraid to get married, afraid that each other is not worth their life.
3、 When cohabiting, men who worry about second marriage care about their performance in bed.
When they decide to further develop with each other, they begin to feel that they are not perfect, and they are not confident in themselves. They worry that they will be rejected by each other if they are not in good shape. They also worry that each other cares about their sexual performance, and they worry that they are divorced women. Love is worried and careful. In fact, women don't have to worry so much. The man who really loves you will think you are full of femininity and charm, because beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
4、 When pregnant, the second married man cares about the history of pregnancy.
After marriage, in order to consolidate the marriage, many men will propose to have children, but some women in the first marriage, because they are ignorant and don't know how to take care of their own body, have been pregnant for their ex husband several times, so they have a lot of worries in the second marriage: can they be pregnant? Are they high-age pregnant women, are they still suitable for having children? Will they care about their pregnancy history? No matter what time, Women, you have to learn to cherish themselves, because it is to let you have a happy capital.
5、 When giving birth to a baby, he was afraid that the second married man would not hurt the baby he brought.
Many women fight for the custody of their children when they divorce. They can't bear their children to live with their stepmother. But when they get married, they worry that their husband won't love their children. In the process of second marriage and pregnancy, women are most worried that their children will be excluded, and they will be favored from then on. When they are pregnant, the pressure will be extremely high. When there is no guarantee that the second husband will love your child as much as you do, the only thing you can do is to love your child consistently and let him feel your happiness and love.
6、 After the birth of the baby, worried about the escalation of contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
In the second marriage, women worry that their mother-in-law can't really accept themselves. Because you already have an ex-wife in front of you, my mother-in-law will constantly compare you with her. If you are better than her, maybe my mother-in-law will be a little pleased. If it is not good, then the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law may be more difficult to deal with, the old resentment against her may accumulate and vent on you. Remember, when dealing with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, we need to remember 16 words: keep a distance, speak less, respect each other and be polite.
7、 When living, her husband and ex-wife are cut off.
Some women in the second marriage due to flash marriage, resulting in emotional development too fast, did not know the reasons for the divorce of the second husband and ex-wife, found that they were inseparable after marriage, many women collapsed. Moreover, if he and his ex-wife have children, they may never be related. Second married women are very likely to lack a sense of security and always worry about the resurgence of the relationship between husband and ex-wife. Therefore, if you cherish your second wife, please give her a sense of security as much as possible and stand up for her like a mountain.