generally speaking, their parents should be more inclined to their children, but there are some such parents. Male chauvinism is very serious, which leads to their women's being bullied outside and they can only bear to live with it. Chen Sicheng is cheating. Why does Tong Liya choose to forgive and tolerate? It's because she has a good father~
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The follow-up development of Chen Sicheng's infidelity can be summarized in one sentence
I cheat, I fly, I mess, but I'm still a good husband.
Because my wife has loved me for 10000 years.
On the one hand, Chen Sicheng's remarks on straight male cancer and his three and four children's stories continue to be exposed.
Chen Sicheng once said in an interview, "sometimes it's right to doubt polygamy." the motivation of many successful people is to have more women. This is an unavoidable desire. People pay too much attention to moral concepts. ";
During the publicity period of Chinatown detective, Chen Sicheng was asked why she chose Tong Liya. She used four words because Tong Liya was' good quality and cheap '.
On materialized women, I only accept Chen Sicheng.
According to all star sources, Chen Sicheng has a junior named Wang tianchu, who bought her a Mercedes Benz. Chen Sicheng also has a junior named Ye Zixi, who took part in the Chinatown detective. That is to say, when Chen Sicheng was filming, he cheated under Tong Liya's eyes. The main room and Xiao San were all in the same crew. They were also real arrogant and bold. On the other hand, the day before yesterday, Tong Liya's father praised a microblog to the effect that he hoped her daughter would be happy as long as she could endure well.
Is it open-minded and wise to tolerate husbands who habitually cheat?
Well, you can only say that you are happy. Liyan Tong sincere words and earnest wishes to express his direct cancer speech before his father's happy camp.
Married daughter, spilled water.
Women are not human, just a property, transferred from one family to another. Women are controlled by patriarchy before marriage and by husband after marriage. They do not have independent personality and free will.
It's natural for women to serve men when they get married.
The word "serve" is really shocking. It's said that it's serving. What's the relationship between the humble attitude and the husband's cheating and flying?
This is more understandable why Tong Liya would say, 'it's OK for a man to cheat, just go home'.
Netizen you Lanta commented on Tong Liya: "she was raised from a straight male cancer family, transported to a straight male cancer family, and trained in pairs.".
This makes me think about another problem. Many times, women don't want to forgive scum men, want to divorce, want to start over, but their parents always say:
'it's time to endure. It's time to live with someone. Don't toss about. '
'divorced, with children, who wants you, can only find worse than him. '
'for the sake of children, you can't leave. Besides, what do relatives and neighbors think of you after you leave. '
Are there few parents who would rather let their daughter live rather than die in an unfortunate marriage than agree to their daughter's divorce?
Perhaps, more terrible than meeting the slag husband is meeting the straight male cancer parents.
It may only be a while when I meet my husband.
Meet straight male cancer parents, that is a lifetime.
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It reminds me of a 31 year old mother jumping off a building with two children.
She wrote a 15 page suicide note, accusing her husband of cheating and domestic violence. She said that "the sorrow is greater than the death of the heart.".
Her husband cheated, she was husband domestic violence, her mother advised her to atmosphere, to tolerate.
She endured, in exchange for the result is depression, suicide.
What could be worse than this?
My colleague's distant cousin is the same.
When she was eight months pregnant, she found that her husband was cheating. She insisted on divorce, but her parents didn't agree and advised her to bear it;
She was only four months old and was still in the lactation period. Her husband beat her in the street, punching and kicking her. At that time, she was photographed by passers-by and uploaded to the microblog.
This time, she couldn't stand it. She went back to her mother's home with her baby in her arms. Her husband didn't come to her and didn't care about her.
The people around her mother's house were so broken that they pointed at her all the time. Her mother couldn't stand it any more and began to drive her home, saying, "don't think about it. For the sake of the children, you should go back too!"
She said, 'but I was also beaten when I went back & hellip;'
Her mother said, "there's no one to make a fuss in any family. Don't say it so seriously! Besides, he's a good person. Why do you want to beat you? It must be that you're not good at something. You can't clap your hands. You must be wrong too!"
She really despaired and said, 'do you want to watch me be killed before you are willing to do so
Her mother said, 'I'm your mother, can I hurt you? Listen to me, go back to your man and make a mistake and continue to live. Don't be so selfish and patronize yourself. You have to think about it. When you are married and still at home, where are your father and I going? "
Now she got it.
It turns out that what her mother cares about is not her life or death, but her own face.
But she had to go back to her husband's house - even if it was hell.
Because she has no way back.
As Tong Liya once said on her blog in 2008, she went to sweep the grave. "Uncle said, this is our family's graveyard. We have reserved a place for each son and daughter-in-law, but there is no one for me, because I belong to someone else's family in the future. It seems that I can't be reunited with my family even if I die. That's the rule. '
She's a daughter. Sooner or later, she's an outsider.
If her parents don't agree with her divorce and don't accept her marriage failure, then she is really homeless.
Slag man cheating, will not betray relatives;
If his wife does not forgive him, he will betray his family.
Can it be more ridiculous?
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Why do these Chinese parents treat their daughters like this?
With all due respect, many Chinese parents are straight male cancer.
Their mentality is:
First, if you get married, you are someone else's family. Parents should not interfere in the affairs of outsiders.
'married daughter, spilled water '. Even if your marriage has problems, it's also a matter for you and your mother-in-law's family. Don't run back to your mother's family. It's so ugly.
Second, the value of a woman is reflected in marriage. If you divorce, your life will be a complete failure.
Chinese parents are the easiest to inadvertently devalue their daughters.
'when a woman is 25 years old, she depreciates. '
'you're divorced and worthless. Who wants you. '
For them, marriage = happiness; not marriage = life is worse than death.
It's like a popular story on the Internet: you are busy gathering, climbing mountains and traveling every day. In the eyes of your friends, your days are full and beautiful, but in the eyes of your parents, you are just a psycho who is not married yet;
No matter how unfortunate your marriage is, it's better than being single.
This is the value ranking of Chinese parents.
This is also the reason why they are crazy about forcing their daughter to marry and opposing their daughter's divorce.
Third, when you divorce, not only do you lose face, but also we parents lose face.
What they care about most is face.
They will feel that if their daughter divorces, it is humiliating for them, blocking the family and making them unable to look up in front of others.
As long as you look at the integrity of the family, it's OK.
Beaten by my husband, how can I be criticized seriously?
Subconsciously, they would rather you were abused to death in your marriage than drowned in saliva after your divorce.
Fourth, don't we all live together to make a living? What's the quality of marriage? How can we be hypocritical!
The marriage of the previous generation was to live together.
So, in the eyes of many parents, 'marriage quality' is bullshit.
Domestic violence and infidelity are gone. It's really your fault.
They feel that if their daughter's attitude is more tolerant and humble, she can win happiness.
As everyone knows, unprincipled tolerance and humility will only lead to contempt and indifference.
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Most of the time, this kind of thinking of Chinese parents is fueling the arrogance of scum men.
They thought it was good for their daughter, but they became the accomplice of the scum man.
So, what should parents do when their daughter meets a scum man?
What parents should do most is to give their daughter a sense of eternal security.
Let your daughter know that your parents are your strong support at any time.
Instead of pushing her daughter out, she was wronged by her husband and rejected by her mother's family.
One of my interns said that her sister was a stewardess. When her brother-in-law cheated during pregnancy, her parents exploded.
Her father called her son-in-law directly and yelled at him: "do you think we are far away from each other for bullying?"
The next day, her parents flew directly to her brother-in-law's house to discuss with their in laws. It is said that her father was seven meters three at that time.
Her mother also comforted her sister and said, "don't worry, divorce if you want to. When you come back, your parents will support you! Your children will also be supported by your parents. Let the scum man go!"
It's unfortunate enough for a woman to meet a slag man. At this time, she needs her family to stand firmly on her side.
Finally, I would like to share with you a video of a foreign girl's wedding speech by her father.
He gently threatened his son-in-law:
'we and God have spent a lot of time and effort to have such a perfect woman as she is today. Don't screw up, boy. '
It's really tearful.
I hope all parents can do this, always regard their daughter as a treasure, and always stand firmly on her side.