Stars' infidelity will be revealed almost every other period of time. Most of them are male infidelity, but there is also the infidelity of women like Ma Rong. Why can't men control themselves? Why are some women willing to be a junior when they have families, children and careers and have to go out to pick wild flowers?
To be honest, the dilemma is that there is no way out. That man is like a ball of plasticine. If his wife doesn't pinch it, the ownership will go to junior three. When his wife wants to pinch it, he will go to her again. When his wife treats him well again, all his complaints disappear, and all the excuses for being with Xiao San disappear. For him, returning home is the least risky thing. There were two women who wanted to die for him, and no one held him responsible.
In such a triangular relationship, the best tactics of the third party are Blitzkrieg, quick fight and quick decision. Once it enters a protracted war, the balance of victory will gradually tilt to the right side. In such a painful relationship, Xiao San may have to ask himself a question: do you fear more, or do you love more? Are you afraid of being abandoned, the hope of running a business before being completely destroyed, the fear of losing an emotion, the fear of emptiness, and the fear of facing the merciless fact? If this kind of fear is too big, it will make you lose your sense of reality I won't give up.
About love, we often only value its sweetness, and forget the heavy things under the sweetness, that is, for this sweetness, you need to bear the consequences. When you get involved in an extramarital affair, you have to face a strong sense of guilt, guilt and fear. The problem is that the more intense the pain is, the sweeter it is, the more deadly it is. It is more exciting, more ups and downs, and more in line with your definition of romantic love.
Some people get involved in a hopeless love just because they can't stand the plain love, rather than falling in love, they like role playing; others get involved in extramarital affairs just to satisfy the complex formed by the failure of competing with their mother or brothers and sisters for paternal love in the original family.
In the original family, as a loser or a tragic winner of the pet game, she often looks for another battlefield to enter the next gambling game. She hopes to repeat everything, win again, and defeat her mother or sisters. But the problem is that once she really expels her mother or sisters from the relationship, she can't face the attack of guilt, so she hopes to share a man with her wife It's just that this man can love her more.
What to do in such a dilemma? The first thing to see is what is your real motivation to get involved in this complex relationship. Why is this married man more attractive to you than other men? Do you want to play the game of childhood again? If everything is as I said, then you have to face the pain of childhood. Because it can't heal, it will lead you into reincarnation again and again. If you can't face it, and want to escape the pain, it will continue to control you, so that you can't get rid of this repeated tragedy.
Secondly, you have lost yourself in this emotion. The man said that because of his wife's sudden change and responsibility, he could not bear to leave her. Did this kind of betrayal not trigger your anger and pain? This is a kind of injury, but you do not feel it. This is because you have become one with him. The price of losing yourself is to make yourself a vulnerable baby and let others put it on Cloth. You have to face your pent up anger. If you don't have yourself at all, it's hard for you to get out of trouble.
Being a third party doesn't make you win. It will make you lose your dignity, your value, your personality & hellip; & hellip; you won't get love. You will get lies, deceit and stolen warmth that doesn't belong to you.