In Chinese families, the biggest headache may be the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Why is such a relationship difficult to deal with since ancient times? Let's take a look at these reasons~
The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is difficult because of the competition for love. In real life, the son's love for his wife is far better than that for his mother. He buys delicious food and beautiful clothes for his wife. Every day the couple stay together. The mother is not angry, but still feels lonely. The idea that the daughter-in-law has robbed the son will come into being. As for the wife, they all hope that her husband's heart is on her own. If the husband is kind to his mother-in-law, he will not be happy to be a wife. Is her mother-in-law more important than me? So many women will ask an unsolved question: who do you want to save first when your mother and I fall into the water? No woman who wants to fight for her husband's love can let her exist, which is the subconscious problem of most wives Logic!
Therefore, to maintain a good relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, it is important not to let the mother-in-law feel that you are the opponent of robbing his son, but to let her feel that not only the son has not been robbed, but also she has another daughter. When this concept is formed in the mother-in-law's mind, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will naturally form a benign development.
The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is difficult because of the generation gap in living habits and thinking. In modern society, there are still widespread family situations in which men support their families, women work in small classes, or stay at home as full-time wives. Of course, my mother-in-law can't stand not working at ease. She dresses up every day. Her daughter-in-law, who goes shopping and bars, and her son and children work hard to make money, just to make you smart?
Of course, some differences in living habits, such as poor appetite, mother-in-law's preference for leftovers and daughter-in-law's dislike of leftovers, are indirect causes of disharmony between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
The difficult relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is also due to the contradiction of educating children. Mother in law likes grandchildren and is willing to take care of children for the sake of their son and daughter-in-law's safe work. This is a common situation in many families. However, the problem lies in the differences in educational concepts between the older generation and the younger generation. Many daughters-in-law think that their mother-in-law's educational ideas are too old. For example, when they are a few years old, they feed their children and give them pocket money indiscriminately, which will spoil their children. They need new ways of education to take care of their children. For example, they need to let their children be independent and understand that only when they have paid can they be rewarded. So in the long run, there will be a lot of contradictions.
The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is also difficult to get along with because of the idea of son preference. In the old traditional Chinese thought, son is preferred to daughter. When a boy is born, daughter-in-law can be treated with respect, and when a girl is born, there is no equal treatment. Can you blame the daughter-in-law? But the old man doesn't think so. He just looks at the daughter-in-law and is not happy.