When I think about it, we all know what it means to open all kinds of small hotels at the school gate. More couples choose to go out and rent houses to live together. Is it really as good as they say? In fact, it's not necessarily. Today I'll tell you about the harm of premarital cohabitation~
I believe that in the early days of cohabitation, women are definitely not easy to speak, because they are afraid of being called sluts. Later, women gave this great opportunity to men. Of course men do. Even if a man has a nice and touching excuse (I want to watch you sleep every night, I want to wash your feet every night, etc.), but his deep heart is to facilitate their romantic world. Some girls will shyly agree and some girls will refuse. In terms of spiritual love, girls still account for the majority. In order to get the money to open an hour room and go shopping for romance, men rent a house and install a computer. They can surf the Internet and watch porn every day. They can also watch porn while watching it. How convenient it is.
Little a, she is young and independent. She has just been working and falling in love. Her boyfriend is a little older than her. He wants to get married, likes his girlfriend to stick to him, hopes to live together, and starts to plan their future life. Make little a feel more stressed.
I'm very responsible to tell little a that your idea is right.
As I mentioned before, love is not & frac12; + & frac12; = 1. Love is multiplication, only when both sides are complete 1, can 1 & times; 1 = 1.
When a man is eager, he wants you to stick to him and give up socializing for him; he also wants you to be independent and have your own life after being insipid.
My best friend Zhu Zhu is a living example. When we first got together, my boyfriend liked to stick with Zhu Zhu very much, even she would complain when she accompanied us to go shopping, so Zhu Zhu disappeared in the circle of friends for a long time. Three years later, pearl appeared again. When they got married, of course, they didn't plan to have children. Her husband found that Zhuzhu's social circle was too narrow, and encouraged her to play more with her friends.
Therefore, Xiao Bian suggests Xiao a:
1. Plan with your boyfriend and give your own opinion appropriately.
In fact, the boy friend wants to plan for the future so soon because he is worried about the future, which reflects that he cares about little a and is afraid of losing. He is eager to reassure himself in this way. So, at present, in love, small a still has the upper hand.
If you are not satisfied with your boyfriend's plan and want to have your own career, you can put it forward appropriately. Small a dare not mention may also be because of fear of loss, but if not mention, small a will also give up the love because of excessive depression.
Consider using half joking + coquettish tone to express their ideas. Not used to coquetry, but also try to use a softer attitude.
For example, you say that you want to be a responsible man in the future. But I think you may have a heavy burden. Now the house price is so high, and it costs money to raise children. I think I should work harder to share it;
2. The demand of unmarried cohabitation put forward by boyfriends should be circuitous.
Be sure of what he thinks. It can be said that you are very happy that he attaches so much importance to you and wants to live with you. I also want to be with you more. But I will worry.
List some reasons why you are worried. For example, you haven't been together for a long time. You attach great importance to the first time and worry that he will change in the future. You can also cite some examples from others to justify your worries. Then say, you think if he loves you, he will wait for you to rest assured to live together.
When necessary, you can set a time, if two people together for how long, consider living together.
3. To express the need and love for a boyfriend, know how to hold a man's heart
There are many ways to express love. Remember to choose the one he likes. Only in this way can we get twice the result with half the effort!
Expressing your need for him will make him feel more secure and give you time to think about living and getting married together.
Let's look at the fatal harm of love and cohabitation
Property problem: when we are in love, we eat, date, travel and go shopping. Basically, all the orders are bought by men. Men feel very happy. Women also feel romantic. After love and cohabitation: rent, water and electricity, Internet fees, and other daily expenses, for college students and all kinds of white-collar workers of the moonlight clan, the boy's consumption at the moment finally feels the pressure, and the man will think in his heart: 'damn, why should I pay alone. You also have the cost of living. You're better off. Unless there is a reason: I keep you, in order to grab you, drain you, I am willing to use money to buy happiness.
Question: boys are full of color in their hearts. But girls don't think so. Most girls think they can control you after they spend their good years with you. Some women think they can live with you and watch him every day. I'll tell you: it's a big mistake. Some men can get married, not to mention now.
I believe that many parents will not agree with their children cohabitation: spending money hurts their health. Many women who live together will find that they have paid for everything, and as a result, they are hurt and kicked away. Anyway: This is just my opinion, but two people are honest with each other, cohabitation is still a feasible choice.