There are three realms in love. How many realms have you reached? Which realms of love will make people feel comfortable? Just look at the following article~
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Juan, who has the nickname of Virgin Mary in her best friend, was divorced. Her husband, who loves her heart and soul, cheated on her and then filed for divorce. Before the divorce, all her property was transferred and only one house was left.
We are almost angry, have to give Juan advice, not cheap that grandson, determined not to drag him to death, and he fight for property.
Juan is still gentle. Forget it, people have asked to leave. Let's go through the formalities.
We cry for Juan. Juan and her husband are self-made, from nothing to everything, and Juan has always been the kind of dedication type, salt does not say light also does not make a statement, to her husband is unconditional support. And Juan's selfless dedication, in exchange for her husband's cheating, again and again, Juan endured.
Later, her husband suddenly suffered from cerebral hemorrhage, slight, Juan try her best to take care of, just want to influence each other to save a home. As a result, Yadi colluded with the little nurse during the convalescence period, and it was hard to part after the illness.
Juan once again selfless dedication to divorce procedures, her husband happily ready to remarry.
We are angry, not to Juan's husband, but to Juan. For the first half of our life, we live for others, never for ourselves. When we are here, we let others kick us out. We really love each other.
Emotion expert Tu Lei said: when a woman's motherhood overflows, men's love is almost zero. Because he has only gratitude but no love for you.
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Zoroaster, a philosopher, has made the most incisive summary of love: love has three levels: selfless love, mutual love and selfish love.
Selfless love is the highest level of love. People who practice to this point almost love themselves, with a simple and clear purpose. They pay for the people they love and don't care about the pain and suffering they bear.
Mutual love is equal love given to each other. This kind of person loves each other and does not forget to care for himself. While giving each other happiness, he also allows himself to enjoy happiness.
Selfish love is the lowest of all love, ignoring the feelings of loved ones, only focusing on whether they are happy, such people only love themselves.
Such three kinds of love can be called the triple realm of love. It seems simple and clear, but not everyone can cultivate it well.
In martial arts novels, the higher the martial arts practitioners practice, the more they can reach the peak and become a martial arts expert. In the world of love, the higher the martial arts practitioners are often idiots. Although there are some contradictions, they are reasonable.
Just like her best friend Juan, if she is not very self-restraint, can endure and bend for love, or does not straighten out, how can she say that she is always cheating? If she finds out that she is always cheating, she will either beat him to bed or kick him away, why should she be counted into the bone dregs.
Juan's unselfish love is perfect, which helps others and destroys herself. In this way, in the realm of love, if you want to practice just well, but not wronged yourself, it really needs a lot of hard work.
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My friend, Xiao Nuo, is a strange girl. She likes to be chased by a male god. After all kinds of torments of long-distance love, she finally gets married.
At the beginning of her marriage, Xiao Nuo almost spoils her husband. Her daily focus is how to make her husband happy.
As a result, her husband had a good time every day. After work, he was fishing, playing chess, drinking and so on. It was a fairy's day.
Xiao Nuo's eyes are only her husband, but her husband's eyes are not only her. Although there is no infidelity and other dog blood incidents, because Xiao Nuo is good to him, he is used to it and doesn't care much about Xiao Nuo.
Once, Xiao Nuo was ill and wanted him to accompany him to the hospital. He said he went fishing and left. Later, Xiao Nuo got angry when he came back from hanging the bottle in the hospital. He threw him a divorce agreement directly. He was stupid at that time and immediately admitted his mistake.
Xiao Nuo realized that love is to pay for each other. If one side pays too much, the equal relationship will be out of balance. One side will continue to enjoy it with peace of mind, while the other side will complain because of grievance. As time goes by, the relationship will break down.
I remember in martial arts novels, there is a kind of martial arts called Jade girl double cultivation, which is practiced by two people who love each other and win and lose simultaneously. Then, it should be the same in life. When we love each other, we need to understand what "Xiang" means. Xiang is a behavior. Only when actions are made by both sides, can love be natural. Otherwise, it will be difficult to balance.
If you love more, you may not get more; if you love less, you may not lose more. Only when we are equal and build together, can love be complete.
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Love needs to be cultivated. No matter in love or in marriage, the degree of cultivation depends on one's IQ and EQ.
A girl complained in the wechat group that she had two days before and after marriage.
She said that when she was in love, her husband chased her, kept buying and eating, took time to watch Korean dramas with her, and bought her clothes every time she went out. At that time, she thought that happiness was just like this, and this happiness was only fixed before marriage.
After marriage, she is still immersed in it and continues to enjoy her husband's love for her. I don't know that marriage is not love. There is not so much romance, but many trivial things.
Girls can't adapt, she said, as long as I knew it was like this, I would rather not get married than fall in love all my life.
Lovely little girl, will only complain and blame, but did not take a step back to think, there is no eternal romance in the world, all the romance will eventually accept the baptism of reality. And she just want to enjoy each other's love, they do not want to pay, so selfish love, marriage or love, how far can she go?
Love has three levels, the lowest level is selfish love, the highest level is selfless love.
Everyone needs to sublimate from selfish love, love themselves and love each other, separate from self love, integrate themselves into common life, so as to cultivate mutual love.
Mutual love is to really pay each other, love each other, common management, no greed, no ignorance to pay, always in a harmonious state, such love can last.
If you have reached the highest level of cultivation, build yourself into a virgin and offer selfless love, then I advise you to leave early, just a step back, love yourself first and then love others in equal love.
There are three levels of love. What level have you reached?