the so-called "beauty is in the eye of the beholder", which is only suitable for lovers in love. When the passion fades and there is only firewood, rice, oil, salt, soy sauce, vinegar and tea left, you will find that the person beside your pillow suddenly seems to have many shortcomings, and even some make it difficult for you to accept. What will you do at this time?
Huang Lei, a good man in the entertainment circle, has become a moral defense line for some people. Last year's major events in the entertainment circle were related to cheating, such as Xu Zheng's cheating, song Xiaobao's cheating, Wang Baoqiang's cheating, and Lin Dan's cheating. In a moment, the circle of friends was blown up. 'I don't believe in love anymore. 'all kinds of slogans. In the entertainment industry, it seems that Huang Lei is the only really good man and big boy left. A female friend clenched her fist and said: 'if Huang Lei is cheating, I really won't get married. 'Huang Lei has become the last line of defense of marriage morality in some of us. Some people have asked them how they keep their freshness. If it's all right, you have to do it. It makes a lot of sense.
He once narrated a scene on a certain program. 'in the evening, I would open the door of my study, read books and write scripts. When I was tired, I would sit back and rub my chair. When I got to the door, I could see her sitting in the living room watching TV with her back to me. I was very relieved. What is love? I think this is love. 'it's too warm to explode. And Huang Lei's meagre, it is a "show love encyclopedia", all kinds of fancy dog abuse, all kinds of sun wife, daughter. How does Huang Lei teach to keep marriage fresh for 20 years? In her book, American female writer Arsene & middot; Julie said: in this world, even the happiest marriage will have the idea of divorce 200 times and strangle the other 50 times in her life. So Huang Lei and Sun Li have been together for more than 20 years. How can they maintain this state? In fact, we can see from his life track.
The spirit of exploration
Two people together, in fact, the longer the time, the more I found that I did not experience the more things. I want to keep it fresh. Just go exploring with her and try more interesting things. Huang Lei said in his micro blog that many important firsts in his life were experienced with Sun Li. He and Sun Li travel all day, to Beijing, Chongqing, Chengdu and abroad. Where there is fun and delicious, go to.
I have also written in previous articles about what can be done after dating together, and the conclusion is to explore and be curious like a child. It's a great date for you to hang out in the sun and compete with LEGO. Each time they explore something new, they can have a new experience and memory. I think of a sentence from Zhihu: "bad marriage turns people into madmen, good marriage turns people into fools, and the best marriage turns you into children. 'be nice to her
The real good is not that you think to be good to her is to be good to her, but to be good to her in the way she likes. We often make the mistake of giving each other a cart of pears, but later we find out that she wants an apple. On the contrary, we are pestering: how hard I work for this cart of pears, why do you want an apple? But those are not what she wants, and our so-called investment will not work. So we need a balance of investment. Professionally speaking, we should not have too big a gap between the spiritual and material investment of two people, or it will easily lead to tears. In fact, in popular terms, it means to treat each other equally and think from each other's point of view. '
Huang Lei mentioned: how can we think of each other more? In fact, it really takes a while. To form a habit, to form a habit. The investment of both sides will naturally be balanced. What is particularly rare is that Huang Lei said that he remembers all the important nodes in his love with Sun Li. For example, the day of love, the day of license, Sun Li's birthday, or some agreement & hellip; & hellip;. In 2015, on the 20th anniversary of their love, they held a wedding.
Don't be stingy with love
Huang Lei is really numb. Every time he watches a program, he has to kiss and hug Sun Li. And never shy to show love to his wife and daughter. We make dog food every day, but in fact. Proper physical contact is not only a way to maintain the contact memory of two people, but also a way to express the availability. You can see that they are insistent on each other, constantly praising each other's behaviors and thoughts.
For example, Huang Lei often praises Sun Li as a good mother and makes Duoduo look beautiful. Sun Li is also a praise expert. In fact, Huang Lei's cooking skills are so good that she praised them. Huang Lei makes bowl noodles casually, and Sun Li feels that her husband is in charge of China. In their words, it should be 'marriage is a process of mutual appreciation. '
Some of us are dim, some are brilliant, but occasionally we meet someone special. When you do, it doesn't matter. Two people together, ah, also need to pay together, such as balancing two people's investment, giving each other a sense of security, creating small surprises in life, and these can be obtained through learning.