many women say that they can't be too active in communication, or they will appear too casual. Is that true? Do you really want boys to be completely active? In fact, not necessarily. Just look at the following ~ women think that if they pursue actively, men won't cherish chatting with a girl last night. A friend once introduced her to an object, but she didn't show much enthusiasm for it at that time, because she had a place in her heart. When the other party came to chat with her, she also dealt with it casually. After chatting for a period of time, the boy retreated, and the matter came to an end. Although they didn't chat again, they still keep each other's wechat, so they can see each other's circle of friends. Through the various trends of male hair, she found that she was gradually interested in male, and began to take the initiative to get information from her friends. Later, she found that she liked each other more and more, which was even more than the object of her secret love.
So she summoned up courage, and took the initiative to chat with each other, but the other side obviously has no enthusiasm, not only no longer active, but also feel a little strange. She was both upset and sad. She was upset that she didn't know how to cherish her at that time. She was sad about the other party's attitude towards her. She asked me, you say I take the initiative to chase him, so good? I said good, like to chase, right. She didn't reply to me immediately, but after a while, she sent me a string of messages. I really want to be with him, and I'm willing to take the initiative to chase him. But I am a girl after all, if I take the initiative, then even if I really come together, he may think I am a casual person, and he may not know how to cherish me in the future. I have to say that there are too many people who hold this idea now. Many girls, obviously like a person, but also to disguise themselves without trace. Every time we get along with each other, we have to suppress our inner agitation and pretend to be calm. In the dark, there is no information about him, and the little radar in my heart is always watching his every move. Imagine all kinds of sweet scenes, create all kinds of occasions. Both hope that the other party know their love, but also afraid that the other party insight into their own thoughts, in a state of mind can not think of pain and happiness.
Until one day, suddenly saw each other and a girl walking together. So he wanted to go to his best friend to have a big meal, and then hurt for a few months. Seriously, it's not moving at all. In the face of their favorite boys, many girls will fall into a misunderstanding.
Women think that the active pursuit, will let the man feel too casual, too easy to get things do not know how to cherish, not to mention the initiative to send a girlfriend. We must be reserved and wait for him to pursue himself. In fact, whether you will break up in the end has nothing to do with who took the initiative at that time. If it's appropriate, you can go on. If it's not appropriate and you can't run in, both sides are not willing to compromise, so you can only break up and settle down. And whether he knows how to cherish, whether he will cheat or not, is only about his character.
He may try his best to chase a girl, but it doesn't change the end of his cheating. Similarly, as long as the frequency of the two people match, who cares who is active and who is passive at the beginning?
Women think that active pursuit is to practice themselves. Every time I hear this kind of alternative straight female cancer thinking, I will be scared to think that time has gone back a hundred years. Why don't you just stay in the boudoir and wrap your feet in the way? In their opinion, once the girl takes the initiative, it means that when they get along with each other, they have no status at all, they have to listen to each other for everything, and they can't even be petty and coquettish, and they have to take care of each other's emotions all the time. It's not logical at all. Although you take the initiative, but you are pursuing a boyfriend, not to adopt a son, there is no need to flood this pessimistic maternal love.
In the first half of this year, he married a college student, and the bride was more than one year older than him. They met at the school's driving school. At that time, their classmates had just finished their sophomore year, while the girls were already in their senior year. They were going to practice after getting their driving license. When it was almost finished, the girl took the initiative to pursue the man, and finally the two came together. In fact, we were not optimistic about this relationship at that time for many reasons. But the final result is that the two people stormed over, around the people on and off, only the two of them.
Although he is a classmate pursued by girls, we can see more treasure in him. He always thinks that he is lucky enough to get such an excellent girl's active favor.
The whole society is waving the banner of equality between men and women. The proportion of women with higher education is higher and higher, and the voice of women in the group is also growing. But in the face of love, most people are still confined to the stereotype of men attacking women. Of course, from the most primitive physiological characteristics, women's emotional consciousness tends to be conservative and defensive. But if you are in the face of a love you admire, why not take the initiative?
I like you, I take the initiative to pursue you, but it doesn't mean that you have me. I just think we can try to get along. If it's suitable, we can love each other. If it's not suitable, we can walk on the road. It's nothing else. It's more a kind of confidence from the heart.