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The ideal marriage is to marry a loving father and mother for 20 years

Recently, there has been a saying on Weibo: "Wang Xiaojian has been cultivated for a hundred years, Li Daren has been cultivated for a thousand years, and Huang Xiaochu has been cultivated for ten thousand years. 'Huang Xiaochu is Huang Lei, a good man in everyone's mind. Recently, Huang Lei wrote a long article on his microblog, expressing his feelings for his 20 years of love and marriage with his wife Sun Li, and admiring netizens.

They have been in love for nine years. Of course, like all lovers, they need to break in. They have had bumps and quarrels, but Huang Lei will let her go every time. For him, love a person, win posture, lose love is the most loss business. In the past nine years, she became a young girl of late marriage, but with him, she never urged her to marry.

In this way, after the years, has been together, never give up, become their love faith.

Huang Lei and Sun Li are different. They always stick to their rhythm and keep a clear distance from eager for quick success and instant benefit. 'career, of course, serves the family. For both of us, life always comes first.

They live in a villa on the outskirts of Beijing, far from the city, not far from the mountains. Because they are far away from the hustle and bustle, they are used to such a semi reclusive lifestyle; They usually go to sell vegetables, get together with friends, pick up children from school after work. Like any ordinary working couple, they manage their love without trace.

The most important thing is not to be influenced and influenced by reality. And just because of this, they have more time and energy to take care of their families and protect their children. This simple family life makes their love trusted. Marriage is not a cage & middot; accompanying her to the last moment is the way I love her

Japanese psychological master Kawakami used to describe marriage as "digging a well.",

'getting along in a marriage is like digging a well. As the well gets deeper and deeper, you will find more and more truth. Often people give up halfway and dig another well. But usually, if the first well is abandoned halfway, it is likely to fail one after another by the time of the second well and the third well. 'although we all hope that love will be fresh and immortal in marriage, in fact, not every marriage can crown love.

Love is to find each other's advantages, marriage is to accept each other's shortcomings, and can let love keep 20 years of lasting vitality, Huang Lei and Sun Li know how to manage marriage, manage each other, manage themselves.

In the past 20 years of love and 10 years of marriage, they have also had doubts, pains, struggles, and even give up. But looking back, those are just episodes. If they love each other, they are destined to digest them. Huang Lei and Sun Li have a common sober understanding.

Huang Lei said frankly:

'I'm sitting here now. I won't say that Sun Li is the most important person to me. I won't even say that Duomei is the most important person to me. Because we haven't finished, I haven't seen the result yet. Love is beautiful, but I also think it is sometimes a cage. In marriage, you take responsibility for the people you love. It will certainly give you a binding force. Is there a time of conflict? There must be. Do you want to continue? If you have a conflict with this, turn around and look for other options. I think you will face the same problem when you face another person. When you understand this, in fact, other options are not very attractive to you. How much I love Sun Li. I can't tell myself until we finish this journey. At that time, only I knew the answer. But if you think about it again, we have already finished our lives together. Do we still need answers? We can always accompany each other. This result has proved whether our love can last forever. '

Some people say that Sun Li is very happy. As a woman, she doesn't have to cook. She doesn't even have to go into the kitchen. Huang Xiaochu is also very willing to cook for her all her life.

Huang Lei quickly put his head on this statement

'I am happy. In fact, she is a very beautiful and capable mother. Her understanding and tolerance (very great), she can give up almost the entire acting career for you, this is for the sake of the family, for the sake of the children, (ordinary people) is very difficult to do. She has a lot of talent, especially in the stage, showing very well, not everyone has the same charm as her on stage. However, she is willing to spend more time on educating children and taking care of her family. In fact, being a full-time housewife pays much more than we do when we work outside because of the great pressure. '

Is to appreciate, inclusive and constantly enrich themselves, so that their love has always been fresh without the refrigerator.

Today, he says that two daughters and a loving wife are his greatest achievements. He says that he has never loved Sun Li as much as he does today and that he will love Sun Li more deeply in the future. The reason is simple, because she is his unique wife and the most beautiful mother of his children.

He said: she said she married me because I brainwashed her, but I heard love.

He said: after 20 years of living together, we learned not to be obnoxious and nonsense. When I go to work, she looks after her daughters and home. When I cook in my spare time, she washes the dishes and cleans the table and praises them. That's just right.

He said: 20 years, autumn, winter, spring and summer, eating, drinking and laughing, we will stay together until we grow old.

Some marriages, which do not need expensive packaging or earth shaking vows to defend, can always be reviewed without fear of years. Is there anything more luxurious than such love? This is the best state of marriage.