I believe that many boys are troubled by an embarrassing name -- male girlfriends.
What does "girlfriends" mean?
It means you have entered the friendship zone;
It means you have become a spare tire;
It means that you have received a 'good man card';
It means that when she is lonely, lonely and sad, you have to be willing to accompany her;
It means that even if you love her so much that you can't sleep at night or even if she doesn't marry, you can only ask for the next silent guard by her side.
But is this really the only way?
It's not.
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First of all, you have to understand what a girlfriend means.
Male girlfriends mean that you can have a good relationship, go shopping together, share secrets, talk about everything, and you are not full of lovers above Youda.
A girl will talk to you about her grievances. If she is lovelorn, she will cry on your shoulder. Even if she has a new boyfriend, she will let you identify his character.
So what do you get in the position of 'best friend'?
Is a unique girl's heart.
She believes that you can chat with her until dawn when her boyfriend is asleep, and that you will not betray her if she says some other people's gossip in your ear;
I believe that even if you marry a wife, she will not delete her position in your heart. She will fight against injustice for you when you meet a slag girl!
Even believe that you are her, knowing that your boyfriend may break up, but you will never ignore her.
Of course, if I have said what she thinks, her character is undoubtedly good.
All interpersonal relationships formed out of natural needs are originally simple.
The reason why it becomes complicated is that it is often mixed with power, money and other factors.
If you are pure and do not mix in these external factors, then this' male girl ', Congratulations! You have already achieved half of your success in getting her!
It's hard to keep the relationship between men and women pure, because we are all adults, and there must be complex social factors involved.
Needless to say marriage, the existence of marriage certificate is actually a kind of transaction, which can increase the cost of breaking up between you.
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nature
Whether or not you're going to get married, even if it's an extramarital affair, a one night stand.
How much is simply caused by sex?
It's all about demand, not attraction.
In terms of sexual satisfaction, people and animals are similar.
If we have to say something different, there are only two points
First, the sexual relationship between animals is very simple, only need to be satisfied physically.
Occasionally there will be a struggle for spouse, but it will not be mixed with complicated factors such as money and property rights.
Only human beings can do this. Only human beings are involved in calculation and trading. As a result, the original physical happiness is ruined. In this regard, human beings are not as happy as animals.
Second, people can sublimate sex into love.
In the spirit of mutual attraction and appreciation, to obtain spiritual happiness, in this regard, people are happier than animals.
It can be seen that for people, good sex has to have two elements:
One is the attraction and happiness of the body, the other is the attraction and resonance of the spirit, but once there is interest, it is destruction.
On this basis, we can divide sex into three realms
The best is the unity of body and mind, and the happiness of body and spirit blend with each other;
The second best is simply as an animal, enjoying the pleasure of physical collision;
The worst is that the interests of congenial, the animal's happiness and the happiness of life are lost.
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Three
Thus, the best formula for men and women: friendship + sex.
In other words, a shared spiritual friendship of the body.
Friendship is pure spirit and sex is pure instinct. And this can be done in its own way, and peaceful coexistence can be achieved.
But the premise must be pure.
No interest collusion, no right to use, you can have perfect feelings, get all her.