the beginning of a love needs heart beating; the growth of a love needs to overcome many difficulties. A long-distance love is enough to offset the growth you have gained from ten love experiences with different people nearby.
I would like to say that a long-distance love affair is enough to offset the growth you have gained from ten love experiences with different people in front of you. Exotic love, to say nothing of it.
In view of the fact that many people talk about the color change of "remote place", I would like to talk about my own opinion. Because I don't like to communicate emotional problems with people on weekdays. According to the principle of "what's needed to make up for what's missing", my bowl of Chicken Soup for the soul is for the people who lack heart and eye. Well, it's just a joke. The text is as follows. It can only be regarded as a little gain in my own growth.
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[strong enough heart]
First of all, if you are a long-distance relationship sufferer, or are about to have a long-distance relationship, make sure you have a strong heart. The power here includes trust, tolerance, and understanding. Part of the reasons for the failure of long-distance love are loneliness, emptiness and coldness. The other party is unfaithful (but in fact, it is quite rare, unless you meet a particularly unreliable person), and the vast majority of them are caused by suspicion, jealousy, fantasy and distrust of the other party.
There are only men and women in the world. Your lover can't only get along with the same sex. In fact, one of the rare advantages of long-distance love is that you can get together with your friends freely. But what you need to do is to let the other person know.
Even if the other party and some of the opposite sex you do not know go out to play, you can rest assured, believe me, long-term doing so is very beneficial to your relationship, will get more trust, which can eliminate any major suspicion and jealousy. For example, when I graduated from college, my bedroom was empty, but I had to do something and couldn't leave. I had a headache and I had to move to a good friend of the opposite sex. Of course, I made an agreement with my boyfriend in advance. After he agreed, I went. Even if the single apartment had only one room and one bed, my boyfriend trusted me enough.
My heterosexual friend is a very reliable person. He laid the floor and I slept together for a week. I believe that not everyone can do it. Maybe many people don't want to see their lovers talking to the opposite sex. To be honest, it's not good. I travel. Sometimes, in order to save money, I always open a standard room with friends of the opposite sex. There has never been any so-called "deviant things" by others. On the contrary, I can talk seriously about history, politics and economy, and even talk about things like history, politics and economy. I believe that the majority of the population in the world is still decent.
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[don't deliberately misinterpret the meaning of the other party]
Today's technology is so advanced that there are more and more ways to connect with each other. However, SMS, even telephone communication, as long as not face-to-face conversation, may cause semantic misunderstanding.
Once, my boyfriend said that he either likes to be alone, or many people go out to play together. He doesn't love two or three people. In fact, it's nothing. The starting point is to express one's favorite way of socializing. However, I was angry at that time. I deliberately interpreted it as "like to be alone, not to love two or three people together". That means that you don't like to be with me, and you will get angry and cry, and you will turn over all kinds of old accounts, and think that how could you do this once before I, how did I say that once before.
The other party was confused and didn't understand me. In fact, two people together for a long time, there will always be such a problem, the more care about each other, the more sensitive, my father and my mother even if they have been married for decades, sometimes they will deliberately arrogant. Therefore, before misunderstanding, the first thing to do is to calm down and patiently ask clearly. Understanding each other, tolerating each other, thinking from the starting point of the discourse, not the content, will be at peace, and reason will crush the quarrel in the embryonic stage.
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Let it be is not the best explanation
No one can say clearly about the future. There are always people who are worried about this and that. We can only say 'let nature take its course'. In the past, I always thought that we should follow the destiny and try our best. Now I find that if one only focuses on "following the destiny", he will become lazy, lose enthusiasm for life and even be not interested in anything.
My boyfriend and I have long-distance relationships in China. We are 1700 kilometers apart from each other, and we can't see each other several times a year. Now he's flying to America, and I'm going to fly to England. We're all going to study and have to leave for a while. Many people don't understand. They always ask me what to do with you two. I used to like to say, let it be. But in fact, I've even made a plan for five years. After graduation, I'll go back to China, go to the South or the north, stay in the UK or fly to the United States. I've thought about all kinds of plans. Didn't Comrade Xiaoping say that we should be tough with both hands?
In fact, career and emotion are equally important and should be considered together. Therefore, you'd better not always use "let it be" to prevaricate, make sure that the other party feels that no matter what the difficult situation, you are working hard for your love. No matter how bad it is today, at least make plans for tomorrow to make the evening more practical, isn't it?
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Don't force others to do things they don't want to do
When many people are in love, they want to keep pace with each other's trifles, such as music taste and movie type, but this will bring burden to the other party. For example, my boyfriend prefers Hollywood commercial blockbusters or mindless funny American dramas. I don't like them. I like spoof movies made by small products, or English dramas or documentaries with depressing pictures (this may be related to my professional journalism department).
Once, my boyfriend took me to see mission impossible 4, and I fell asleep in the cinema. Later, every time I went to the cinema or at home, he would ask me what I wanted to see. After finding something in common (they preferred funny movies), he would watch them together. If you want to see Sheldon, you can laugh when you are alone. If I want to appreciate the medieval British society, I will enjoy it alone.
This is the best, not deliberately for the other side to change what, and can do what they like to do. Some people may ignore each other's feelings, and must do what the other party does to feel that the other party loves itself. This is not good. Both sides will have resentment. Don't force the other party to love yourself in your own way, which is very bad for your relationship. My boyfriend doesn't like to be nice and obedient, but I won't force him to say this and that to me every day.
Although saying nice words can improve each other's feelings, if the other party doesn't like to say it, let it be. It's not sure that he suddenly rises up and says something nice to you. You can be deeply moved.
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[say what you think: for most boys]
To tell you the truth, as a girl, I can't do this well. Maybe I belong to the people who love to hide everything, but I'm also trying to do it. Girls are born with more delicate emotions than boys. If you're not happy, girls may feel it for the first time. No matter how much you don't want to say, if you don't explain, girls will think it's her who makes you bored. No matter how independent a girl is, she will be suspicious and worried about whether you want to break up with her (I said I was shot), so you can directly tell her that the afternoon basketball game was abused, very unhappy.
You need to make yourself better
People who have long-distance love sometimes see lovers all over the street. They will feel a little lost. If they lose more, they will complain about their lovers. But don't forget that your lover is experiencing the same thing as you. You may worry, worry about the enemy on the way, worry about time and space. In fact, there is nothing happening, so don't fantasize about it. This will make your mood become very negative, coupled with listening to the lost love songs, you will feel like the sky is falling apart. Don't envy and hate those little lovers who stick together every day. We don't have time and energy. We even have to cross the time difference between the two places to get angry, quarrel, lose temper and break up.
All we have to do is wrap up our coat when the wind blows, study hard, work hard, take part in various activities, write reports and give speeches, go to bed early and get up early. What we have to do is one day in the future, to be qualified to stand together with the most unquestionable attitude.
My feeling: you have a person who can stick with yourself, a heart with the same persistence and dream as yourself, and a love strong enough to challenge the distance. In fact, you are happier than anyone else.
I wish all those who have long-distance love get married.