After 10 years of marriage, Zhang Hua was excited in the face of his wife's' crazy 'move,' this day can't pass, and he is determined to divorce '. Finally, persuaded by his relatives and friends, he forgave his wife Liu Min and agreed not to divorce for the time being, but Zhang Hua firmly took back the salary card that had always been in the charge of his wife and asked his wife to turn in 1000 yuan a month as the house purchase fund.
So far there is no money to buy a house. Where is the money
Zhang Hua and Liu Min are both post-80s. The couple have a lovely daughter. More than 10 years ago, Zhang Hua, who came from rural areas, came to Xichang to work and met Xichang girl Liu min. the two sides fell in love at first sight and fell in love quickly.
After half a year of love, Liu Min took the initiative to get married. At that time, Zhang Hua's monthly salary was only 1000 yuan. Although his hometown had prepared his wedding house, he still had no car or house in Xichang. To this end, he refused Liu Min's first proposal.
"I don't want your money. I don't have a house or a car. In the future, when we get married, we can slowly save money to buy it." Liu Min's words moved Zhang Hua very much. Therefore, with the consent of both parents, they received a marriage certificate.
Because Zhang Hua has been renting a house while working in Xichang, after marriage, his parents-in-law let them go home to live with the old man, hoping that the little couple can save money and buy their own house early.
After marriage, Zhang Hua took the initiative to hand over the salary card to his wife Liu Min for safekeeping. In 2010, Zhang Hua and Liu Min welcomed their daughter Beibei, and the old and small families lived together happily.
In the twinkling of an eye, Zhang Hua and Liu Min have been married for 10 years. Over the past 10 years, Zhang Hua's monthly income has increased from the initial 1000 yuan to 6000 yuan, but he doesn't know how much his wife earns every month, let alone how much savings the couple have saved over the years. Over the years, Zhang Hua also lived frugally and did not smoke, drink or play cards. In addition to several hundred yuan of personal expenses a month, the rest of his salary was handed over to his wife, 'I just hope to save more money and buy a house early'.
Zhang Hua also repeatedly encouraged his wife Liu Min to see the house, but Liu Min always said, 'there's no money. What room do you see?'
Ask the truth
His wife spent nearly 400000 on online shopping in 10 years
From November 20 to 26 this year, Liangshan Prefecture has a seven day Yi New Year holiday. Due to his outstanding work performance, Zhang Hua's unit rewarded excellent employees and their families to travel to Phuket, Thailand, including Zhang Hua and his wife.
At the end of the trip, at the duty-free shop at Bangkok airport, Thailand, Zhang Hua wanted to buy some local dried fruits to send back to his friends, but his wife told him that his bank card had been maxed out. In his wife's suitcase, he bought cosmetics alone for more than 20000 yuan. In desperation, Zhang Hua, who is usually frugal, is on the verge of anger. From Thailand to Chengdu, and then from Chengdu to Xichang, the husband and wife have been cold war, and neither one pays attention to the other.
"Zhang Hua, you and your wife are finally back. Your family's packages have filled the guard room." On November 28, as soon as Zhang Hua entered the community, he was shouted by the guard to collect the package. Take a closer look, there are 23 packages, large and small, all with the name of his wife Liu min. Zhang Hua's resentment accumulated in Thailand has not turned away, and new anger has rushed up again.
Seeing her husband's unhappy face behind her, Liu Min hurried forward to pick up the package, kept explaining 'this is all for Beibei', and ran twice to move all the packages home.
"I work so hard to earn money every day. You only know how to buy online all day. Over the years, where is the salary I gave you? You must make it clear to our parents today." Back home, Zhang Hua grabbed the mobile phone from Liu min. the next scene made him silly: after calculation, Liu Min spent a total of more than 260000 yuan on Taobao, 80000 yuan on vipshop, 40000 yuan on JD. In addition, he also spent on other shopping websites, with a total consumption of nearly 400000 yuan.
Guard against 'online shopping addiction' and establish a rational consumption view
The package of "double 11" was confiscated, and "double 12" came one after another. Nowadays, online shopping has become the preferred way of shopping for young people. Zhang Yonghua, a psychology professor at Xichang University, said that if it is' online shopping addiction ', it has deviated from the original normal purpose and turned shopping into a personal hobby and a behavior to meet psychological needs, which is very dangerous.
'being happy with online shopping and having this economic ability does not affect family life. Just like online shopping does not constitute & lsquo; Online shopping addiction & rsquo Zhang Yonghua said that psychologically, 'addiction' should meet the following characteristics: patients have an understanding of the harm of their behavior, but they can't control it, and they feel very painful; The patient's social function is obviously impaired, such as causing family conflict and hindering work.
'of course, there are many reasons for online shopping addiction, such as high work pressure, tense interpersonal relationships, lack of emotion and so on. Everyone's online shopping needs are different. Some people may bring a sense of pleasure, and some people may take shopping as a means to relieve and relieve pressure & hellip& hellip;' Wang Yueli, a national psychologist, said that the situation like Liu Min was still serious. After all, it affected the family. She suggested that she do some psychological counseling to find out the specific reasons.
Zhang Yonghua said that many young people are obsessed with online shopping and lack a rational concept of consumption. Therefore, he suggested: first, we should adjust our mentality in time, distract ourselves and reduce online shopping time; Secondly, strengthen self-control and don't compare blindly; Third, you can learn to manage money and let relatives and friends supervise their finances, so as to alleviate the 'online shopping addiction'.