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The mentality of consolidating friendship

You may be proud of a few friends who share similar feelings and aspirations. But sometimes you may be distressed and confused by the growing alienation of your friends: how can friendship fade without much separation and contradiction between you and your friends? The reason may come from all aspects, but if you pay attention to the following eight mindsets, you will make the friendship stable from time to time.

1、 Comply with your performance, speak carefully, and don't hurt your friend's self-esteem

Maybe you and your friends have been very close in the past and talked about everything. Maybe your talent and appearance. Family, way out, etc. are enviable and higher than your friends. These favorable conditions may make you reckless, stand out and express yourself without restraint, regardless of places, especially when you are with your friends. There is often an obvious sense of inferiority in your speech, which makes you feel that you are talking to others from a commanding position, deliberately boasting and raising yourself, hurting others' self-esteem, and can't help but have the idea of staying away. Therefore, when communicating with friends, we should control our mood, adhere to wisdom, be modest, be open-minded, put ourselves in an equal position with others, and pay attention to thinking of it from time to time

Take care of each other's psychological acceptance.

2、 Distinguish between each other, abide by the contract, and don't let your friends take precautions against you

Friends often do not distinguish things from each other. However, if you take the things of friends without permission and do not take care of them, sometimes you don't return them later or happily. After a long time, your friends will think you are too presumptuous, resulting in Preventive Psychology, and may lead to the alienation of your relationship. In practice, in addition to friendship, there is a wonderful contractual relationship between friends. In terms of things, you and your friends can borrow things at any time, which is beyond the relationship of ordinary people. But you should have a waking understanding of friends' things: 'friends' things should be protected more.' Treasure your friends' goods as part of friendship and pay attention to the rules of reciprocity, so that your friends will always trust you.

3、 Prevent carelessness, pay attention to details, and don't let your friends despise and feel bad about you

Among friends, conversation and behavior should be straightforward, generous, kind, and not pretentious. Only in this way can we show our natural nature. But if you are too loose, do not pay attention to self-control and informal, it will make people feel that you are rude and vulgar. Maybe you will make a rational appointment with ordinary people, but when you get together with your friends, you forget yourself, or point fingers, or talk nonsense, the sea and the sky, or arbitrarily interrupt your friends' words, ridicule, or look left and right when listening to your friends. Perhaps this is your natural expression, but over time, friends will feel that you lose face and have no self-restraint. They will have a sense of disgust and contempt for you, and will change their original impression of you. Therefore, in front of friends, we should adhere to self-respect but not lose self-respect, adhere to enthusiasm but not lose etiquette, and be measured and restrained, so as to win the eternal friendship of friends.

4、 Keep your promise and break the agreement strictly. Don't let your friends think you can't be trusted

Maybe you don't value some agreements between your friends so much. You change your mind halfway after accepting your friend's request. Maybe you really delayed an appointment party or didn't finish what your friends entrusted to you. Maybe you will explain one or two lightly afterwards, thinking that friends can understand each other and don't care about trifles. I don't know that friends will be anxious and frustrated because you keep your promise. Although they will not blame you face to face, they will certainly think that you are playing with the friendship of your friends, playing tricks on the occasion and lacking a sense of trust. Therefore, we must be cautious about the appointment or trust of friends. If we breach the contract on time, we should promise thousands of gold. We must not speak without faith.

5、 Ask for help from your friends. Don't force them. Don't let your friends think you are too unreasonable and overbearing

When you need help, of course, your first choice is a friend, but you don't give notice in advance, temporarily ask for help, or force your friend to participate in an activity with you regardless of whether he is willing or not, which will make your friend feel in a dilemma. It would be even more embarrassing if he could not change the layout of his activities. For your request, if you allow it, you will disrupt your plan, and if you refuse, you will be unable to get along with it. Maybe he is willing to do it on the surface, but he is a little unhappy in his heart. He thinks you are too overbearing and unreasonable. Therefore, when you ask for something from your friends, you must inform them in advance, speak in a consultative tone, and try to make a request on the premise that your friends are free or willing.

6、 Distinguish between places, be moderate, and don't let your friends get bored of you.