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The study found that the proportion of suicide in depression was on the rise

If you were born in 1910, the probability of depression in your life is less than 1%; if you were born in 1950, the probability of depression in your life becomes 3%; if you were born in the 1970s, the probability of depression in your life becomes 7%; if you were born in 2000, you have depression at least once in your life. Depression is the killer of modern human beings, and 70% of suicides are depression. In China, 250000-280000 people commit suicide every year. The human brain can not be changed, happy people and pessimistic people, their state is very stable, because 50% is genetic.

Trying to change yourself

The most important factor affecting happiness is the psychological variable you can control. Although we especially emphasize the uncontrollability of mental illness and personality, people are still able to wither. People can change themselves by themselves, not by drugs. So how much can people adjust themselves? 25%! At the level of 1 / 4, they can change themselves.

How can we change ourselves? First, learn to forget. If we have trauma and frustration in our heart, we should learn to adjust, and the most important thing is to forget. Second, we should learn to be tolerant. Tolerance means that when there is a conflict, we should not take human factors too seriously. The third is a positive perception of the past, including gratitude. The fourth is to learn to recall positive experiences, and recall three good things every day: happy things, satisfied things, and grateful things.

Face life with optimism

Generally speaking, the above four points mean to face life with a positive attitude. This kind of future oriented positivity is summed up in one word, which is called optimism. Optimism is a belief that good things are more than bad things in the future, and a stable personality quality.

The study found that optimistic and pessimistic people have three different instinctive reactions when they encounter failure, which are called different forms of explanation. First, an optimist thinks that failure is temporary, while a pessimist thinks that failure is permanent after the first failure. Second, the optimist thinks that failure is individual, and the pessimist can think of a series of problems when he encounters a little bad. Third, pessimists always feel that they are not capable enough and do not work hard enough after their failure. Optimists blame others. What are the benefits of optimism? Optimistic people live a long life. Optimistic people recover very quickly after surgery. Optimistic people have mild symptoms after catching a cold. Optimistic people are not easy to get depression. All these are its benefits. Of course, people who are too optimistic are not good either. They have insufficient risk management and no sense of hardship. Being too optimistic sometimes leads to failure. Therefore, flexible optimism is flexible optimism.

In modern society, optimism is the third element of success. Success is equal to ability plus motivation plus optimism. Bezos, President of Amazon, founded the company in the basement in 1995. He did not see any profit for 8 years. During the period, he also experienced the Internet bubble. He talked about what is the key to success. He only chose optimism.