According to the most recent survey, nearly 80% of people in the workplace say they are jealous. So how to face their jealousy? How to find a good attitude, easy work, happy life?
Phenomenon: jealousy makes us lose happiness
According to the results of a psychological survey on enterprise employees released by Xinhuanet in July this year, 47.37% of the employees said they occasionally felt jealous, while 31.58% of the employees felt that they often had jealousy, and only had jealousy=“ https://www.4hw.com.cn/love/ " target="_ 1.05% of employees with STD said they would never. The study found that the happiness of employees who often have jealousy is significantly lower than that of employees who never have jealousy.
It can be seen that the influence of jealousy is not only to destroy interpersonal relationship and reduce work efficiency, but also to make us lose the happiness and satisfaction from the work itself.
After all, when employees are given a chance to get a raise, they may be envious of their superiors, or they may lose the opportunity to get a promotion or honor; Female employees are more likely to be envious than male employees. Women are naturally more emotional, and their first reaction to the outside is often emotional. However, the proportion of male employees who are envious is relatively small, and they will recover faster. "Zhang Shuhua, a psychological expert in Beijing EPPs consulting, said in an exclusive interview with this newspaper.
When people in the workplace have jealousy, it may be manifested as uncooperative work, tense interpersonal relationship and low enthusiasm. If these phenomena exist for a long time, it will seriously affect the quality of work and interpersonal relationship, which is very unfavorable to the development of individuals and organizations.
Expert's point of view: it's all caused by the psychological gap
Who hasn't experienced jealousy? What is hidden behind jealousy, apart from the unspeakable frustration and anger? According to Zhang Shuhua, some studies have found that jealousy is closely related to the psychological gap, and the reasons can be divided into external factors and internal factors.
The external factors include organizational justice, that is, distributive justice. In the distribution, when there is a big gap between the reality and the ideal, it will inevitably lead to competition, which will lead to a serious unbalanced experience and aversion to others, resulting in interpersonal tension. In addition, it is closely related to the fairness of leadership. Fair distribution is the foundation, fair leadership is the driving force, and the encouragement and support of leaders give employees hope. On the contrary, it will lead to vicious competition, and jealousy will continue to spread.
In addition, the root cause of jealousy is closely related to personal character. Generally speaking, people with low self-esteem tend to be more jealous, while people with high self-esteem tend to be less jealous.
What kind of people are more likely to be 'jealous'?
Inferiority complex: people with inferiority complex tend to feel different from others and fail to develop their potential smoothly. Once his colleagues, who seem to him to be at the same level, succeed, it's easy to get jealous.
Anxious personality: these people will not only worry too much about the future, but also pay too much attention to their own interests, which can easily lead to jealousy.
Weak self-awareness: due to the lack of sufficient understanding of self, and the shallow understanding of their own advantages and disadvantages, it is easy to produce blind jealousy.
Lack of trust and security in the surrounding environment: when the relationship of mutual trust is not established with colleagues, it is easy to produce jealousy in the face of interests.
Experts teach: dare to face jealousy, consciously improve self-esteem
The key to Overcome Jealousy is to have a correct attitude towards jealousy and dare to face it. 'Zhang Shuhua said. In her opinion, jealousy is inevitable, which may be a human weakness. We don't need to make a fuss about it, because it helps us keep a cool head and constantly improve our ability through efforts.
In the specific practice, first of all, we should consciously improve our interpersonal trust and self-esteem level, use more positive coping styles in our life, make full use of our social support system function, timely dredge or reduce this negative emotion, so as to make our life more relaxed and happy.
Secondly, we can turn to psychological counseling. More participation in some psychological adjustment lectures or psychological counseling can also help us to recognize the causes of jealousy and find ways to eliminate jealousy, so as to focus more on improving our self ability and the harmony of interpersonal relationship.
Turn jealousy into envy and accept others with a broad mind
Zhang Shuhua pointed out that envy and jealousy are two very similar but different complex emotions. They all include disappointment, sadness, shame and so on. But envy often points to more positive emotions and more pleasant experiences, and hopes to get the same results as soon as possible, which is an important driving force for growth and competition. And when envy develops aggressiveness, it will evolve into jealousy, which may eventually hurt others and yourself.
She suggested that if we have jealousy, we can try to reduce the degree of jealousy, look at the people and things around us with envious eyes, and accept ourselves and others with a broad mind and a modest attitude. Jealousy may have little effect on others, but the damage to one's body and mind may be incalculable.
'envy and jealousy are emotions and experiences that everyone has. When they come, please don't deliberately suppress and avoid them. By carefully analyzing the causes of these emotions, we will have more understanding of ourselves, more choices, and more freedom of mind. 'she said.
After reading the above content, we should have some understanding of how to face the jealousy and how to adjust the workplace mentality. Today, we will introduce more topics about mental health. Sihai Xiaobian will continue to introduce them in the following article. Welcome to check.