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Is there a psychological problem in bragging

Boasting is a kind of vanity, a kind of hope to attract others' attention, hope to be elevated by others, be looked up to by others, perhaps lack of a kind of practical spirit.

The need for self compensation and the need to reduce anxiety are two common psychological reasons for boasting. Boasting does not pay tax, so some people start to run the train. What psychology do these people like to brag about? How to help them return to the real society?

'some people like to exaggerate their abilities and identities. 'when an insurance company salesman talks about how many big customers he has or how much the leader thinks highly of him, it's not true. 'it's psychological compensation. "At this time, bragging is not only to make up for the gap, to achieve the ideal state of self psychologically, but also to show the self and get other people's attention. '

General MacArthur of the United States during World War II is the model of improving self-confidence and reducing inner fear and anxiety with the help of big words. Once, a German Air Force bomb exploded near him. The guard asked him why he didn't get away. He said: 'Hitler will never make a bomb that can blow up MacArthur. This kind of big talk is also called 'normal big talk'. It can give people the advantage of psychological game and reduce their anxiety while deliberately disdaining their opponents.

If we say that these two kinds of people are deliberate, then people who boast because of pathological reasons are not aware of it. 'a boy said to everyone that he was going to surpass Bill Gates. The child was later diagnosed with mild mania. When a person has mild mania or is in the early stage of schizophrenia, a neurotransmitter called dopamine in the brain is in an abnormal state of activity, which makes it hyperactive, indefatigable and overestimated. "It's easy to identify this abnormality. If it's too exaggerated or totally illogical, it's time to take them to a psychiatric examination. '

No matter what the cause of boasting, most of them are easy to affect mental health and interpersonal relationship. On the one hand, being accustomed to boasting makes the real self smaller and smaller, and the false self gets bigger and bigger, thus paying little attention to the solution of practical problems, so it is difficult to succeed. On the other hand, bragging may gain temporary false respect from others, but once the boast is punctured, the other party will think that you are fooling them, thus breaking faith.

It takes long-term efforts to change the habit of boasting. Boasters should start from the small things they are good at and recognize their own abilities. In addition, these people can list everything they have at present, which will help them return to reality.