This year's college entrance examination is over. After the tense college entrance examination, many students are granted amnesty. At this time, parents should not relax the mental health guidance for their children. The relevant psychological experts pointed out that, in the past years, after several months of intense test orientation, various psychological needs will appear 'blowout' phenomenon after the college entrance examination. In addition, parents also change from strict supervision before the test to tolerance and indulgence, and many potential psychological crises of examinees will easily appear.
Some studies have shown that two weeks after the end of the college entrance examination is a high incidence period of examinees' psychological problems, common psychological problems are: boredom, anxiety, despair, confusion, indulgence, etc.
During this period, how should examinees and parents face it? Why can examinees have these psychological problems after the intense college entrance examination?
Parents should communicate with their children more, encourage their children to explore themselves, guide their children to communicate, help to cultivate their independence, avoid doing nothing, and aggravate this nihility.
In this regard, the psychological teachers of the educational psychological counseling Station think that social influence, family influence and the endurance of examinees are the three factors that cause examinees' psychological tension. They analyzed: 'at present, the college entrance examination is still an important benchmark to measure the level of a student and determine the future of a student. It can be imagined that parents and examinees attach great importance to it. After the college entrance examination, the examinee suddenly changes from a tense state of study to a state of relaxation where time can be controlled at will, instead of knowing how to arrange time reasonably. After that, they also have to bear the pressure of the results announcement, anxiety about which universities and majors can be admitted. At the same time, they have to face all kinds of inquiries from people around them and think about the future, destiny, life and other growth issues. So many things come one after another, and it is inevitable to have anxiety and uneasiness. '
They pointed out that after the college entrance examination, the attitude of parents has a great influence on the mentality of examinees, sometimes even far greater than the score itself. As a parent, we should adjust our mentality and lead our children out of the shadow of "post college entrance examination psychology".
The advice given by the psychological teacher is that parents should be calm and rational first, do not let the children face the pressure alone, let the children know that the whole family is with him, cheer him up and face the problem together. Don't show too much concern and worry obviously. Provide children with appropriate opportunities to express their emotions. Parents should explore their children's advantages and give them praise and affirmation. It's also useful to tell children that they can do it again or find another way out if they fail in the exam.
Parents also need to make a reasonable arrangement for their children's life after the test, and arrange for their children to listen to music, read books and other ways of 'active rest'. It can also guide children to carry out some social surveys, such as going to the talent market to understand the needs of today's society for talents, so as to reduce the blindness of future learning. The emergence of various psychological problems is related to the huge psychological contrast before and after the examination or the lack of grasp of the future. If all kinds of psychological problems can't be solved in time, it may lead to the candidates' mood blundering, depression, even suicide.
The counselor of sun Shuo's psychological consulting studio reminded parents that they still need to pay attention to the mood and psychological changes of examinees after the college entrance examination, and guide their children to evaluate and accept themselves objectively. Parents should attach great importance to children's depression, irritability and other abnormal conditions, adjust them in time, and seek help from psychological professional institutions if necessary.