In the current era, 'flash marriage' events are not uncommon. Choosing 'flash marriage' ignores the cultivation of sense of responsibility and loyalty. Now a 'microblog flash marriage' has pushed the 'flash marriage family' to the forefront of the storm. Psychological experts say that the post-80s generation is not qualified for 'flash marriage', and 'flash marriage' is just because they lack a sense of responsibility and do not have enough feelings to build a foundation. In the end, they have to be hurt by 'flash marriage'. In this small series, young men and women who want to 'flash marriage' might as well do a test question designed by psychologists: pre marriage psychological test paper. See if you're really ready to get married...
Netizens upload the whole process of airport meeting
Recently, a 'microblog flash marriage' incident was discussed on the Internet. The 'Uncle behind him' from Chengdu met the Shanghai woman '4 fork' on the microblog. In only five days, he agreed to get married without meeting each other and only chatting on the microblog. The heroine flew to Chengdu with her Hukou book. She wanted to register together and attach photos to her microblog. They kissed in public at the airport. They claimed to accept the supervision of Internet users.
Nowadays, the "flash marriage" events occur frequently, and the "microblog flash marriage" has pushed the "flash marriage family" to the forefront of the storm. Is it advisable to "flash marriage", and what psychological preparations should be made for marriage? In this regard, the psychological experts of Guangzhou Baiyun psychological hospital gave an analysis.
Choose 'flash marriage' or lack of responsibility
For this' microblog flash marriage 'incident, most netizens believe that a healthy marriage first needs to be based on feelings. Even if they do not have deep feelings, they should at least have the experience that both sides can live in harmony. It is unreasonable to choose to get married only after a few days of dialogue only when they have not met on the Internet.
If marriage needs emotional foundation to be established, then the sense of responsibility of both parties is the foundation to maintain marriage and the source of happiness after marriage. Psychological experts explained that a sense of responsibility is a person's understanding, emotion and belief in the responsibility of himself and others, family and society, as well as the corresponding conscious attitude of abiding by norms, assuming responsibilities and fulfilling obligations. Family and marriage are inseparable from the sense of responsibility, which should be based on emotion. If marriage lacks emotion and sense of responsibility, then husband and wife will not know how to understand and bear. When there are storms and setbacks in marriage, there will not be enough will to maintain it, and the marriage will come to an end because of personal desires.
Because from unmarried to married, a person has to face the transformation of roles and many changes: such as trivial and specific family affairs brought by life, each other's family, relatives and friends, each other's work, career and future, the collision of different outlooks, values and ideals, the adaptation of different living habits, etc. These changes are a challenge to individuals, which need enough will to face and enough sense of responsibility to maintain.
Therefore, 'microblog flash marriage' only pays attention to the freshness of the first feeling and the efficiency of completing marriage, but ignores the running in and warm-up before marriage, and ignores the cultivation of sense of responsibility and loyalty.