How to help children eliminate psychological barriers and shape healthy personality? How should parents help their children eliminate psychological barriers? Young people in the critical period of physical and mental development, it is easy to appear some psychological barriers, need parents to take seriously, correct guidance, below we introduce in detail.
1、 To help children face psychological obstacles
For teenagers, health comes first. However, health is not only physical health, it also includes mental health. We advocate that teenagers learn to protect themselves, not only for their own safety, but also for their mental health. When youth comes quietly in the expectation of teenagers, you may be surprised to find that you are not ready, and you are still half awake. There are so many puzzles and troubles that you will feel at a loss for a moment. When young friends encounter psychological problems, they dare to face up to themselves and learn to adjust themselves. When they can't help themselves, they go to a psychiatrist or heart doctor
It shows that the sense of self-protection has really taken root in your heart.
Here is an example
Li Zhen is a junior high school freshman. In the eyes of teachers and students, he was a down-to-earth and orderly child. Later, I didn't know how to do it. I started to be impatient. No matter what I did, I was in a hot mood and had a head but no tail. I lost everything in my homework and always wanted to finish it right away. As a result, I made mistakes in my busy work. To be on duty is not to make a body of water, or to break this or that. Especially when they are in trouble, they are even more anxious. They are like ants on a hot pot. They want to solve the problem all at once. When others criticize him, he often blames others or things for being too troublesome. After the teacher found out, he got in touch with his father immediately, but his father said: 'why do boys want to be so honest? Like a big girl 'later, Li Zhen's behavior became more and more serious. He became angry with his parents, teachers and classmates all the time. When he was unhappy at home, he scolded his father and mother. No one could listen to him. In the class, his classmates were unwilling to pay attention to him.
Zhang Qian also encountered the same problem, in addition to the above phenomenon, also, every time the examination paper is issued, she can't sit down, often sweating, writing East and West, so anxious that she doesn't know what to write and ignores her academic performance. Teachers and parents are very anxious, in the teacher's advice, parents with Zhang Qian came to the psychological clinic, Zhang Qian told his changes and psychological feelings to the psychiatrist. After the diagnosis, the doctor said that Zhang Qian's performance is a psychological 'impatient' personality disorder, and also specifically told her the method of treatment. After a period of hard work, Zhang Qian has changed a lot, doing things in an orderly way, and her academic performance has also improved rapidly.
It can be seen that the two different attitudes towards mental health receive two completely different and opposite results. It is suggested that young friends should not forget the importance of mental health when they are protecting their health and life safety, and learn more psychological self-care skills.
Experts suggest: psychological disorders, also known as psychological abnormalities and mental diseases, are psychological abnormalities caused by various adverse stimuli. When a person has difficulties in adaptation and development, and his behavior deviates from the normal norms of social life, he is regarded as having psychological obstacles. The greater the deviation, the deeper the obstacle. The causes of mental disorders are very complex, including genetic factors, physical factors, psychological factors and social factors, which affect each other and cause each other.
2、 So what are the types of psychological disorders?
1. Adaptability disorder: psychological and behavioral disorder caused by environmental factors. Usually, they can't study and live normally and can't communicate with people normally.
2. Anxiety disorder: anxiety is fear, upset, worried, always think that they can not achieve the goal, so complain.
3. Depressive disorder: the mood continues to be low, I think I can't do anything, I don't want to communicate with others, I always feel that I'm not interested in doing anything.
4. Phobic disorder: also fear. But what they are afraid of is often normal to many people, and nothing to be afraid of. Such as acrophobia, clamorous terror, square terror and social terror, among which social terror is more common.
5. Hypochondriac disorder: pay too much attention to one's own health, always think that one has some disease.
Here's an example:
Xiaoqiang grew up very fat and was always ridiculed by others since he was a child, which made him very self abased. He became very angry, vain and vulnerable. When he was in primary school, the teacher always criticized him, which made him unable to look up in front of the public. Therefore, in his little heart, there is less self-confidence. At that time, his grades were still very good. When he went to junior high school, due to the inferiority and cowardice in his heart, Xiaoqiang's grades plummeted and he was in a bad mood. He always wanted to cry without tears and laugh without intention. I became more eccentric, almost afraid to see everyone, every time I came home from school, I felt scared on the way, my heart beat faster, and I couldn't even open my eyes. After returning home, Xiaoqiang hid in his own hut, even his parents didn't want to see him. At that time, Xiaoqiang felt that he was finished, and he became a useless person. He even thought of suicide, but Xiaoqiang didn't dare to do that, because he couldn't bear his parents.
Summoning up courage, Xiaoqiang went into the psychological consultation room of the school and poured out all his troubles. Before, he didn't dare to think that he still had the courage, but when he really went in, Xiaoqiang didn't feel terrible. With the help of the teacher, Xiaoqiang finally bid farewell to inferiority and walked out of the small circle he set. I dare to meet people.
In fact, it's not terrible to find mental illness, but it's more serious to be afraid of yourself. As long as we face it bravely, we will overcome the psychological obstacles and grow up healthily.
3、 What are the common psychological barriers?
1. Emotional disorder: emotional instability, not good self-regulation, impulsive, moody, encounter setbacks or blows when depressed, emotional vulnerability, mental unbearable.
2. Willpower disorder: lack of purpose and consistency of behavior, indecision, lack of self-determination and long-term vision, easy to be deceived when encountering other people's instigation, know that they have mistakes, but also insist on mistakes, obstinate.
3. Mental retardation: memory disorder and thinking disorder. Lack of memory. They are afraid of exams, their grades are falling, they are tired of learning, they lack confidence in their future, and they can't judge, summarize and reason correctly. Although they study hard, their grades are still very poor, and they have a strong sense of inferiority.
4. Personality disorder: extremely stubborn, narrow-minded, jealous, often in conflict with classmates and teachers, can't stand anything, always look at the people and things around with opposite eyes, defend their wrong behavior with wrong conclusions.
4、 Which behaviors easily lead to mental illness
1. No correct outlook on life. The pursuit of a low desire lifestyle leads to a low ideological level. For example: greed for pleasure, fear of hardship, fear of dirty, fear of tired, selfish, read some unhealthy books and audio-visual products, easy to cause mental illness.
2. Lack of emotional communication. For example, they have little contact with classmates and teachers, have a narrow communication area, and do not communicate with their parents. They are self closed and lack of emotional communication, which makes people feel lonely, depressed and depressed.
3. Do not participate in group activities. He likes to be alone and despises everyone. He is self-centered and runs small gangs. Being away from the collective life and unwilling to contribute to the collective can easily lead to loneliness.
4. Lack of interest and hobby. Nothing interests me. If there is no chance of success, there will be no sense of satisfaction, fullness and achievement, and life and study will be boring.
5、 Mental illness is not terrible
1. Vent: vent your troubles, grievances and anger through diary and letter writing. It is unnecessary to keep what you write, as long as you can achieve the purpose of venting. You can't take others and public property as the object of vent, so as not to hurt others and public property. You can also cry a lot and excrete all the troubles in your heart. Or choose other ways you like to vent, such as shouting in a deserted place or swimming in the pool.
2. Pour out: tell your friends, classmates, relatives, teachers, parents or other trustworthy people all the troubles, pain, frustration and depression in your heart, so that you will feel much more relaxed. The words of comfort will give you greater relief.
3. Diversion: when you are stressed or stimulated in your heart, immediately divert your attention and do something you are interested in, such as listening to music, reading a book you like, playing ball on the playground, staying away from the thing that causes you harm for a while, and calming yourself down.
4. Hint: self reminding. I shouldn't think like this, it's wrong, calm down, don't panic, it's nothing great, I'm sure I can get through the difficulties& hellip;' Through these hints, you can ease your emotions.
After reading the above content, you should have some understanding of how parents should help their children to eliminate psychological barriers. More topics about children's psychological barriers will be introduced in the following articles. Welcome to check. Wish you a happy life!